a few years ago, i was so funny and open and had lots of friends. i was totally comfortable with myself and wasnt afraid to say anything. now, im 15 and sometimes just clam up. im not that comfortable with myself and i dont say half of the things i want to because im afraid people will think im weird
2007-01-30 12:47:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take it from me, it pays to say what you want. I am crazy in school--I'm always blurting out something silly and funny just because I want to. In general I'm a serious person, but I've found it's much easier to make friends and have fun if you get a little crazy. Next time you want to say something just go for it girl! You won't regret it when everyone starts laughing and joking with you.
2007-01-30 12:52:16 · answer #1 · answered by .:Blair:. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your world has got bigger and you dont feel so secure anymore.
The confidence will come back so dont panic on that score. Its just learning all those unwritten rules about behaviour that takes some handling.
Its helpful to associate with people that have the qualities you want to regain. See how they behave and without forgetting who YOU are, build on their techniques.
There is no substitute for being interested in people when it comes to gaining self esteem. Mostly people just like to talk about their problems and a friend that is a good listener can help them find the solutions without any real contribution from you.
That gets you on the path to building your self self confidance.
2007-01-30 12:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by philip_jones2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just interact with people say nice things and ask questions about nonpersonal things. I struggle with the same problem but I have found that if I actively try to be outgoing I can be more comfortable with it.
2007-01-30 12:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by halfway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that being out-going before got you lots of friends, then don't be afraid to be yourself. Hey, I'm weird & guess what? If people don't like that, they can deal with it because I'm not changing for anyone. Weird is awesome! Lol, be yourself & have fun with it.
2007-01-30 12:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your 15 your interests and personalty is changing. You can try to do things like you used to but its just who you are. Give it time you will change a bit more im sure. Tryto remember what you used to do and focus on it but inthe end we are who we are.
2007-01-30 12:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by SS4 Elby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
step one, go out
no seriously, the only way to become more outgoing is to go out frequently. The more experience you get, the sooner you'ill become more comfortable in nightclubs, bars, etc.
2007-01-30 12:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by lane447423 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh yah i'm 14 and i'm totally like that i'll NEVER talk to people unless they talk to me and when they do i get so nervous and i have to get to know them before i can get relaxed and just be me!! Join a club...i'm doing track and i can't wait to meet new people it's hard at first but once you meet these great new people you'll wanna meet more...but i totally know where your coming from about they'll think your weird...i'm like that...and every1 says i should stop caring about what people think but its not that easy.......just try ignore it i guess :D
gOOd LucK
2007-01-30 13:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do yourself a favor and go out!! :)
you will have so many funny stores to tell when u go out and have many experiences that you will start becoming more open
just be urself and try not to think what other people think of you!
2007-01-30 12:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by krista sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds a little mental....
your changing.......
thats natrual....... its called maturing
just thought id tell you im still crazy and stuff and im 15 in 2 months i hope i dont go dull like you.......
no im scared
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2007-01-30 13:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by xxtrogdorxx2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wear bright colors, people talk to people who wear bright colors, smile more and act pleasant, if you do people will talk to you more and your confidence will rise.... then, when your confidence rises youll get confident enough to talk to others.... or you can just hang out with outgoing people and their outgoingness will rub off on you.....
2007-01-30 13:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by munsee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋