Im engaged to one guy who i love deeply. We're not getting married for about 15 months but I know I want to be with him forever. Those are my deep down feelings. But i have these "surface feelings" for this other guy. We've been talking kindof, and he keeps wanting to be with me because of some "connection" we have... we met 5 months ago and I let him take me out to eat, and he kissed me at the end of the night. I felt awful about it and told my boyfriend (we werent engaged at the time). I mean seriously though the kiss was nothing he pulled ME in and i pulled away. I told him I loved my bf and never wanted to see him again. We didnt talk for 5 months but we started talking a few days ago. He knows im engaged but hes relentless on this... I feel like i need to do something major to make these feelings go away. We met up the other night but didnt get to talk for long ( I didnt do ANYTHING with him)... I know ill regret anything I do but he wants me to meet him right now to talk...
2007-01-30 12:40:54 · 11 answers · asked by Christines256 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Although you are not yet married, you are still in a committed relationship with your boyfriend. Think about it, how would you feel if it was your boyfriend with another woman? If you want to start seeing this other person you need to tell your boyfriend first. You'll only end up hurting him and possibly yourself if you try to deceive him. If you want to remain faithful, avoid the other person. If you are mature enough to get married then you should be mature enough to avoid temptation.
2007-01-30 12:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by QT 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What as surface feeling? and why are you having any feelings, other then for your guy that you are engaged too It sounds to me like your playing with both of these men. Be the adult about this and stay where you are at Meaning don't talk or meet this other man.. You will only get more confused and lose your fiance for good.
2007-01-30 21:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me before I got married. I stayed true and married my then-fiance and lost touch with that guy. Three years later, I divorced my ex-husband and although I'm now very much in love with my current boyfriend, I still think back, wondering what it might have been if I had given that guy a chance. My point is, nothing's for sure and for as long as you have any sort of feelings for this guy, you should find out what it is that is making you have second thoughts being with fiance. It may not have anything to do with him after all. Sometimes you have to go through hell before you can be truly happy. I say...meet him (but keep your hands and lips to yourself) and listen to what he has to say.
2007-01-30 20:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by snoringcouchprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have surface feelings for this guy should make you wonder about your engagement. If you are willing to meet this guy knowing he has feelings for you, you're asking for trouble. Ask your fiancee if he wants you to go meet this guy... since you're engaged, your behavior should show such, and you shouldn't do something or hide something that your fiancee wouldn't approve of. Same goes for your fiancee. I wouldn't go... but that's me. You have to do what you feel is right.
2007-01-30 20:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never understand these kind of Questions. If you even consider going to meet this man call your fiance and call of the engagement, he deserves a woman who will love and and be faithful in mind as well as body. If you even consider going to meet this man you are being unfaithful to the commitment you made as you know this man wants a relationship.
2007-01-30 20:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Leigh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is still persuing you. Chances are that he just wants what he can't have and you have to get rid of him before it ruins your engagement and marriage. He'll be gone soon after he gets you so just don't go there and stop talking to him.
2007-01-30 20:47:10 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think something will come of meeting with this guy, then don't meet him. That way you don't have anything to regret later.
2007-01-30 20:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by LOS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go...don't let temptation ruin the relationship you have with the man you love.
2007-01-30 20:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by none 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your poor boyfriend, do him a favor and leave him now. You need to have some self control.
2007-01-30 20:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no....stay true....how would you feel if your hubby to be did this to you?
2007-01-30 20:47:20 · answer #10 · answered by bill6866 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋