See i have a friend that iv already had problems with many times before and she is always being mean to me and talking about me and crap like that..... we always end up being friends again, and i always end up getting my feelings hurt.(as usual.....) so i dont konw how to tottaly end it.
see im a christian and so is my dad. i talked to him about it and he just said "Honey, just prey for her & things will get better o.k.?"
i did what he said, which didnt help......
WHAT SHOULD I DO?, IM LOSING IT HERE!!!!
2007-01-30 12:39:37 · 14 answers · asked by peace maker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Use commons sense here! If she is knocking you down, don't keep letting her kick your ace. Get away while you still can. I once had a friend who used to do this to me and it hurt a lot. I moved away.5 years latter she wanted to be my friend. I was like heck no!
2007-01-30 12:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by Monet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i too am a christain and am used to hearing responses from my parents just lilke the response you were given. yes of course you should still keep praying for her, but you need to ask her why she continualy does this to you. if she gets upset, fine. let her throw a fit but dont take any of it personaly. after all, you've said she's done this a bunch of times, so if she throws a fit, let her. you move on and be the bigger person and dont worry about it. everything will be fine, i am sure God has her in your life to teach you to be strong and to begin learning how to deal with people like her, becasue there will always be someone like her around, it is just a matter of you coming back constantly that determines if you grow or not. if you can move past her childishness, you are the one that has grown. you'll see. i've been there. it makes you stronger i promise.
best of luck.
2007-01-30 12:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by shutgstr1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the exact same problem. My friend was always mean to me & like you, I'm a Christian. I ALWAYS forgave her & prayed for her. Nothing helped, so I decided to talk to her. I told her that I have forgiven her many times & I don't mind being friends, but I deserve some respect. I told her that we need space for a while to patch things up & I told her that I want us to respect each other. We took time apart & we worked things out. I hope this helped. Good luck!
2007-01-30 13:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mean to her...even though retaliation seems like a good thing right now. If she tries to talk to you...don't listen, and give her the shortest possible answer. Just because she is asking you a question doesn't mean you have to give her an answer.
Since she has been mean to you it seems to me that she is not your friend. One of my friends is going through something just like this right now. Anyway hon...don't go out of you way to talk to her. If she asks you if you want to hang out, say you already had plans.
The important thing to remember is to not dump her on her face. (figuratively)...because that would hurt HER feelings. Ease out of the friendship and hang out with people who are NICE to you...maybe people who have stuff in common with you...some other Christians maybe?
Best of luck!
2007-01-30 12:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 05:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by guyden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had friends like that back in they day. It comes down to how much you value your friendship. If it's someone you can live without or would just like your spare yourself of being repeatedly hurt then just go out and make new friends, it's not as hard as most think it is.
2007-01-30 12:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your dad know my mom? Whenever I tell my mom anything, she says Just Pray for them. I used to, but it doesn't work, and it doesn't make me feel better. I am sorry for you and your friend. Maybe you need to make some new friends. (I know easier than it sounds right) I hope things work out for you two. Try giving her a taste of her own medicine, and see how she likes it. Oh, and PRAY FOR HER LOL>
2007-01-30 12:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god is answering ur prayers but not in a way u think. she isnt getting better of course u can tell by what u r saying! but i guess he is saying she is not a good friend for u so he is making the relationship any better! by the way, yes, i think u should let go of her and move on. i hope ive helped u !
2007-01-30 13:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by Smart Blonde! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Christian too, and I also agree with your dad about praying for her. God always answers our prayers, and I'm sure He has spoken to her heart about the way she's treating you, but it sounds like she just chose not to listen.
you just need to stay away from her because she will only end up hurting you again. you can stay away from her and still be praying for her too. this girl needs to listen to God.
I will keep you in my prayers.
2007-01-30 12:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change a person who doesn't want to change. So yes, pray for her to become a better person; meanwhile, don't wait around for it. Drop her and get friends who know how to treat you with respect; or, in other words, do you think she's praying for YOUR well-being? Don't count on it.
2007-01-30 12:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋