I have a big situation going on. I have this sweet boyfriend whom is dependant (a little too much) and sensitive, funny, he plays regional soccer (and I do to), romantic..... and I love him a lot. I'm also beginning to have this huge crush on this other guy whom is very nice, pro motorcross racer, cute, loving, caring, funny..and so on. I don't know what to do because this other guy is going to this motorcross school in Florida (about 24 hours from where I live) for 4-5 months and I don't know if I should tell him sumthing. He likes me too but he doesn't know that I like him. Everytime we cross paths in the hall at school he looks at me and smiles and I feel so great when he does that. I just keep on thinking about him and I still can't beleive he's going away for so long. I wish I could tell him how I feel. My boyfriend: I tryed to break up with him once because things weren't going so well, but he didn't let me. If I'd leave him he would be heart broken because he is so dependant....
2007-01-30 12:14:19 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
...and I wouldn't like to do that because he keeps on telling how we gonna stay together forever (and I'm only 16) and yes I see myself with him because he is such a good guy.. but I don't want to have one partner for the rest of my life... plz help
2007-01-30 12:17:46 · update #1
You are only 16 and have the rest of your life ahead of you. There may be many boyfriends in your future...you cant say because someone else is in the picture now he will be the right one for you. Getting involved and attached to someone permanently right now is a bad move for you. You will not be able to experience what life has to offer.
The important thing here to remember is: Dont base breaking up with someone to be with someone else...because, that may not work out also.
As far as your boyfriend being dependant on you, well that isnt good either...because that can get old really fast. Yes he will be broken hearted...but you can lessen the pain by staying his friend.
2007-01-30 12:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you have to go with your heart, you know? I mean there isn't any point in staying in the relationship if you're not happy, and getting interest in other guys. It's always better to end it sooner, because it will save you both a little on the emotional drain of the breakup.
You are still young and free to try different things and date different people. Experince your life now, and maybe down the road if you do want to be with your boyfriend then maybe things will work out later on when you are more ready to settle down. Or maybe you'll find an amazing new guy. who knows. Just do what you feel! (by the way...I would say break up with him, in my opinion...)
Don't worry so much about your boyfriend and the effect a breakup will have on him. The main thing is whether or not YOU are satisfied with the relationship. It is your own well-being that is the most important thing! Be happy!
2007-01-30 13:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kris <3 S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 16 going on 17......(sound of music)
still young, never know what the future holds- stay with your current unless you too have a major disagreement- the OTHER GUY is not around for that length of time( do you really wants to drive 24 hrs) you are a regioal soccer player, you don't have enough time to do anything- stick with current
2007-01-30 12:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by manblind1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, I think you know what you need to do. you want to tell this other guy how you feel about him. and I really think you're feeling the need to break up with your present boyfriend because he's just too needy and he makes you feel guilty when you try to break up with him. that's called manipulation! he's making you feel guilty in order to keep you with him. you are 16 years old, and you need to be having fun and enjoying your life. and as long as you let your boyfriend manipulate you into staying with him, you're never going to be happy. I think you need to follow your heart, and see where things go with this other guy.
Good Luck With Everything!
2007-01-30 12:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋