My best friend and me have been gettign into alot of fights. But we made up from all of them and I thought we were goign good. She started hanging out with this other girl alot and when I'm with them I feel liek a 3rd wheel. I try to invite her so it is just me and her but she always asks if teh other girl can come an if I say no she says that she already had plans with the other girl. I tried talking to her about it but she just said, "So I'm not allowed to have other friends?!" She tells me nothing is different and were still best friends but I look in her profile and I have one sentence the other girl has 11. She said thats all there was room for. Whats happening and how do I get her back??
2007-01-30 11:57:30 · 8 answers · asked by skiipxxaxxbeat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Haha James S clever!
2007-01-30 12:09:16 · update #1
friends come and go, find some new ones.
2007-01-30 12:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you read again what you wrote and pretend it is from someone else, you would see that at the age you are, these really aren't huge disasters. You simply are growing APART from your friend...it happens all through life---you hang for a while then move on. There are acquaintances and there are friends---the differences are huge--learn that a friend is one who will stop what they are doing and come to you when you call for help--anytime anyplace. An acquaintance is just someone you know---likw this girl. Traet her as an acquaintance and find a new group to pal with---expand your horizons and stop worrying about this. Just say HI once in a while and keep moving. Join some clubs and things will definitely be better. You cannot force her to come back---no one can FORCE anyone to do anything---that's a fact. You just remain nice, smile and keep moving.You should learn something about others that come along from time to time, ---they have people that they hang with and you can do that too---but do not expect ALL the attention from anyone---just mingle and be a good sport. Smile and best of luck to you
2007-01-30 20:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe she needs space between you and her for awhile. it should blow over because I felt kinda distant from my best friend to but I kinda stayed distant and now I feel like she could still be my friend. Sometimes people need breaks and if she had friend you should get another one also that's what I did.
She's not replacing you she just probably need a little space and she should come back. Don't keep pushing at her if you do she might not want to come back.
2007-01-30 20:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it may be time to move on. It sounds like you have out-grown each other and there is nothing wrong with that. You will find that as we grow up we change direction in life and it means moving on from things we are sometimes not ready to let go of. be brave, everything is for a reason. good luck.
2007-01-30 20:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say: I don't mind you having other friends, but it seems like you've forgotten me. I want you to have other friends, but I don't want you to forget me. Whenever I try to invite you to things, you ALWAYS have plans with her. Sometimes, I just want to spend some one-on-one time with you. Whenever I'm around you when she's around, I get ignored like I'm not here. I want us to still be friends, but I want us to be able to be just as close as you are with her.
See what she says. If she gets mad, she's not your friend. If she keeps doing it, then she doesn't care about the friendship. Good luck!
2007-01-30 22:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change...they evolve. It may have nothing to do with you...she may just be finding a new direction in life.
Don't take it personal. besides...people we think are friends are usually just people we meet along the way.... but when a true friend becomes a part of your life...the friendship will last a lifetime.
If she has moved on... she wasn't that real lifelong friend
2007-01-30 20:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, i'm sorry. i know wut u mean, its hard. i've felt like a 3rd wheel before, its not easy. i'm not sure theirs anything that u can do. maybe just start hanging out with another one of ur friends. maybe the friend ur talking about will start missing u too. i don't no, i'm not really sure wut u should do. hope this helped. hope everythin works out.
2007-01-30 22:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by Michael T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on that midnight train to geogia.
2007-01-30 20:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by james s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋