He talks to her mostly about his daughter only. He tells me I have nothing to worry about but my intuition tells me he still has feelings for her.
2007-01-30 11:50:40 · 12 answers · asked by Kylie T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know I will have this problem when I start dating again. My ex and I are in contact all the time. We have two children together, and work very hard to ensure they are raised properly. We also work very hard to ensure that they know that even though we do not live together, Mom and Dad will always work together in raising them.
We do birthdays together. We do Christmas morning together(alternating houses each year). We sit next to each other at Tball. Any woman I date in the future will have to be comfortable with this. She will have to believe me when I tell her that any contact I have is about the children. She will have to believe me when I tell her I am in no way interested in my ex. She is the mother to my kids, and that is it. If she cannot except that, then she will have to move on.
They have a child together. It is good that they can talk to each other about the child. The little girl has one Mom and one Dad. She should be able to know that her parents care enough about her to put all issues aside, and be her parents. Of course he has feelings for the mother. I am willing to bet it is nothing more than caring for the mother to his child.
I would let it go. If you try to put a wedge in the middle of that, he will likely take it badly. It will seem more like you are interfering in him trying to be a part of his child's life.
2007-01-30 12:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a jealous person too. I would focus on your husband and how much he loves you. If you have a happy marriage just enjoy it and quit trying to sabotage it. If things were so great with his ex they would still be together. And they created a child together, so that creates a certain bond between two people. But that does not mean he still loves her or would rather be with her. If your marriage is in trouble try to fix it. But don't invent problems when you really don't have any. Good luck.
2007-01-30 20:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I place a lot of value in intuition and if you feel it, I believe something really is likely amiss, but it may not be long-term threatening. The way to deal with it is to bring it out of him in a loving, understanding, ears-open kind of way. Not a defensive, "can't you see I'm better than she" way, but a, "what pieces do you really miss? It is hard to love someone that long and slam the door shut on absolutely everything ... I do understand ... tell me what you miss ... help me be that for you" kind of way.
2007-01-30 19:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your intuition is a combination of your fears and your own feelings about your husband. F your intuition. Listen to your reasoning.
Now, it's time for the womenly women to embarass my gender with "my god woman's intuition is like psychic powers!" and other nonsense.
2007-01-30 19:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must have expected him to maintain some sort of relationship with her. They have a child together. Stop being jealous it's a turn off.
2007-01-30 20:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You could be having insecurity problems....talk to him seriously about it or it is gonna get worse think about it the child is not going anywhere nor is the mother...so nip it in the bud now or give up if you can't trust him talking with her
2007-01-30 20:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by kellygirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course he has feelings for her they have a child together right. I think you need to just keep him happy and don't worry about her live your life with him
2007-01-30 20:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by sharktale33 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A man will always have feelings for his ex-wife, exspecially if they have a child. There is nothing you can do that about that.You just have to trust and believe your husband. You have to support him.
2007-01-30 20:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by Renee B 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Of course he still has feeling's for her,
2007-01-30 19:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is the mother of his child-
2007-01-30 20:07:01 · answer #10 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋