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I had what I thought was a friend, I helped her move away from what she claimed was an abusive relationship. Though I never saw any signs of it, I could only go by what she told me. I even found her a place to live where the rent was really cheap. Than suddenly she tells me she's moving to another city for a dream job. She only told me 4 hours before she left. She promised to call when she got settled in and let me know everything was ok. After not hearing anything for two months I got worried and contacted the local police to help me find my "friend". They did, but she didn't want them telling me where she was. She has never answered any of my emails and has canceled her main email account, there are other accounts she uses. We never had a fight and she left with us on very good terms. I found out that what I was told about how she found this job was a lie, and I don't even think this dream job exists. Now I think everything was a lie. I feel like I've been used. So what do I do now

2007-01-30 11:46:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Friends

11 answers

That's a tough one. Try writing her a letter explaning how you feel. Tell her you don't know why she cut off all contact and that you are worried. Ask her to at least let you know she is okay and then leave it at that. Ball in her court. If she wants to continue the friendship, she'll have to reach out. At that point, know that you did the Best you could for a Friend.

For incomprehensible reasons, folks do wierd stuff sometimes. Whether she was in a bad relationship or not, You did the Right Thing.

If she does contact you, be sure there is a good friendship base before offering any more help. You did the right thing, but you don't deserve to be taken advantage of.

2007-01-30 11:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by AleksMama 2 · 0 0

Well that is something. It obviously seems that she wasn't very interested in having a friend to me. I wouldn't just give up it is possible she could be in more trouble than before though. It could be drugs or a job she is ashamed of if there was anyway to tell her when she wants to talk to drop you a line. Well good luck.

2007-01-30 11:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Emma G 1 · 1 0

It might be wise you have no more to do with her!
but to tell the truth she is probably back with her guy so be careful he may come after you
or as you said she may have made it all up & she has just used you
you could ask the police if there was any sign of her guy there or was she really by herself but they may not tell you that

2007-01-30 12:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by ausblue 7 · 1 0

sounds like she might have some issues including she might be embarrassed by all that happened (whether it was true or not)....you did your part all you can do is let her go her own way, maybe someday she will regret cutting you off but really the ball is in her court from what you have said here so there is nothing more that you can do except move on

2007-01-30 11:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 1 0

move on... dont beat yourself up over it tho, if she was maybe lying about the abuse, maybe she was an attention seeker? you gave lots of attention which she loved, and now she is still getting attention from you by being a cow!!

you have done nothing wrong at all, dont let it affect other friendships, forgive her for being such a b***h to you and let it go

2007-01-30 11:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by merrpet 2 · 1 0

that's WEIRD. your friend sounds like they "thought" something was up with you and left. it must've been something really bad or they wouldn't have acted the way they did. i wouldn't worry about it because someone has told her a lie and she has believed it. don't worry and move on.

2007-01-30 15:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by Abby 6 · 0 0

Let her live her own life and find her own way.
God bless u for helpin her when u did.
Just pray for her and think positive.
Maybe she found a rich boyfriend.

2007-01-30 11:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0 0

Learn a lesson from this experience and definitely move on.

2007-01-30 11:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by Irish 7 · 0 0

Not a very nice thing to do on her behalf!! just forget about it, its sound like she did use you and people like that just aren't worth the worry. you sound like a nice person and she doesn't deserve your kindness.

2007-01-30 12:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

move on... obviously she has. i know it is hard and being such a genuine friend like you were- it wasnt expected for her to do such things. i think it would to leave her alone for now and eventually she will see what she lost

2007-01-30 11:51:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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