help im 21 and living with my sister. my parents recently devoriced and dont speak to my mother. my dad lives in fl and cannot support me. if my sister was to find out about this she would kick me out because she warned me this would happen if i kept messing with that fraternity brother. the guy i messed with wont answer my calls and wont have anything to do with me. what should i do and where to find help. i work and go to college i can barely afford to support myself more or less a baby. abortion?
2007-01-30 11:33:03 · 10 answers · asked by mommie dog 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
dont let people tell you that you cant have an abortion, its an individuals choice, not one for YA people to make. I wish you the best in what ever choice you make
2007-02-03 11:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by Chad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is NOT the answer! I got pregnant at 21and the the father was never there for me so, I can symphathizie with you. I kept my child through a lot of support from Pregnancy resource center. They can help you find the right resources to support you and your child. I know alot of people say bad things about welfare, but i am a true beleiver in the system. Because of the welfare program, it paid for ALL my health expenses as well as my childs, i was given a montly amount of money, and money for food, i was able to get HUD, a pogram to help pay for 80% of my rent. Like you, i was going to school and living with relatives. Thorugh the welfare program i was able to move out and support myself and go to school for FREE. Yes, because i kept my childl There are many resources out there for financial aid. Heck, I recieved over $2,000 a semester plus all my books were paid for and the "blessing" was all my childcare was paid for while i attended school.
Let me end by saying that because of this, i am now a high dollar paying member of society and have a beutiful child!
DO NOT be discourage because you can't make it finalcially!!!! I have listed the resouces i took advantage of and so can you too. Don't think twice, keep your child!!!!!! You wont' regret it.
2007-01-30 12:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by Flaca 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is always a choice but most women end up regretting this choice. I know that you're scared but weigh out what will be the best for the baby. Is adoption a choice in your mind? You need to tell someone that loves you, most likely your sister. I know you said she'd kick you out but hun, if she really loves you, she'll help you during this "low point." There's no bigger miracle than a baby but make sure you consider how to make this little miracles life all if can be. Don't give up trying to get in contact with the father. This is as much his problem as it is yours. Good luck with your ordeals, I've had the same scare before but i had a caring boyfriend that wanted to be in the baby's life but then miscarriaged. Make sure the choice you make is in favor of you little miracle.
2007-01-30 11:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best advice would be to give the baby up for adoption. Abortion....wow! Thats a tough word. I understand that you'll get kicked out but explain to your sister that you have NO place to go!!! She cant let you live on the streets. Especially in this condition. And tell her that adoption may be an option. I hope this made you think about it.
2007-01-30 11:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by ♥i WANNA KN0W♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, lets hope you're not pregnant! If you are, then you need to get some counseling before you make a decision to terminate the pregnancy. Some people can cope with the fact of abortion and others take it hard. The decision is yours, just think long and hard about what you decide. Talk to your sister, she may have better ideas.
2007-01-30 12:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by Babyface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is not the only or the best way for you to weezle out of your resposibilities. Put the baby up for adoption or just leave it at the hospital. What ever you do, don't try to raise the kid yourself with as little common sense as you have.
2007-01-30 11:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, Abortion is not the answer. Adoption is the right cource of action, dont kill your innocent baby for your actions. your child deserves the chance to live and be loved, find an adoption agency.
2007-01-30 11:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by BaBy KiSsEs!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 15, Jobless. My parents are kicking me out right when I have my baby, I am still with my boyfriend but he is over bearing and controlling. I hate his family, which I have to move in with.If I can do this, you can. I am due in 2 weeks. I made it work, why cant you?
2007-01-30 11:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your baby didnt do anything wrong. Why would you punish the baby by aborting him or her? You were the one who slept around. Your 21. Be responsible.
2007-01-30 11:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by Blondi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your sister! I bet she will be more understanding then you think she was probably just trying to scare you because she wanted the best for you. I know your affraid but think things through first,--good luck
2007-01-30 11:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by amanda B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋