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I was asked by our church to pump and bring bottles to church and we will never go back. That is the last straw.
Women in public tell me to stop descreetly feeding my child under a cover! They either worry that their disloyal men will break their necks trying to sneak a peek, worry that their uneducated kids will ask them what I'm doing, worry that they themselves did something wrong by not breastfeeding and feel guilty, or worry that, eventhough they have clevage hanging out and have painted themselves and their tiny, cheer-leading outfit clad, daughters up like two dollar prostitutes, I might send "the message" that I have breasts. Lol Hilarious. They go to the beach in their bra and panties, but I'm offensive draped in a tent?
Los Vegas tells women not to breastfeed ??? Victoria's Secret tells women not to breastfeed while they display mannequins in thongs and push-up bras?
I'm motivated now. Where do I protest?

Oh, more than one church has asked me not to nurse in the NURSEry, because toddlers might try to look.

p.s. If you are uncomfortable seeing me in that tent, look the other way and ask yourself what is wrong with YOU. A tent is offensive? What are you, the thought police? Hello, 1984.

Don't patronize me, lady. I'll relax when justice is served. Right now, I'm out to focus this righteous indignation into action. I am not responsible for your "icky little bitty feelings", or anybody else's. Breastfeeding in public is 100 % legal. Busybodies with no life and who think the entire world ought to revolve around them and their delicate sensitivities are in my scope.

Wear a blanket? Did you read anything I said? I use a well made and well covering breastfeeding cover. It's huge and shows nothing. Baby can't kick it off. What do you mean I shouldn't "make it obviois that baby is eating"? Is it obvious when you're eating? Would I know that's what you're doind? Well, "you eating" is gross to me so go have your lunch on the toilet.

I don't subscribe to Victoria's Secret. they and the city of Las Vegas have both treated breastfeeding women like criminals. Don't you find anything about that to be ironic?

Answer 1

They need to get a grip. The thing is... if you want to attend some churches you may have to compromise. I ain't saying it is right. And yes it is their problem.

Answer 2

And now from a dumb guy's point of view...

1. You should breastfeed (if you can) because it's better for the baby and your post-partum recovery.

2. Not all guys have had kids, and therefore their response will vary. So use some discretion when you "whip it out" -- you could scar some of your more sensitive single guy friends :) Any guy with kids will take the cue to look the other way, but a childless man will bounce between your eyes and the "miracle" taking place at your chest.

3. Please don't use nursing as an opportunity to make a social statement -- it's between you and your child, and is no one else's business. There's a reason a nursing mother goes into a bit of a "trance"(for lack of a better word) -- use this as an opportunity to bond with your child. Don't try and hold conversation with a man while nursing. It just doesn't work.

4. Who gives a about Las Vegas or Victoria's secret? Cancel your catalog subscription to help your image and spare your trash bin some more shiny paper.

Answer 3

I support 100% Honestly if your covering up with a light blanket there shouldn't be such a problem. Have you tried talking to the priest or an official before you stop going though? Maybe bring it up to the community as a whole. Breastfeeding is not just about antibodies and nutrients. Your baby is bonding with you, and you with it. This is a wonderful thing for mommy and baby to share and they have no right to tell you it is indecent. If they complain that the blanket might get kicked off, say you are going to use clothes-pins to attach it to your shirt. Eventually they run out of reasons to complain.

Answer 4

What a sad, twisted world we're living in. Anything that's abnormal is fashionable and you need to cheer for it otherwise you are full of hatred and you don't accept others. But when it comes down to something so natural, so wonderfully designed as breastfeeding - then all of a sudden it's disgusting, shameful and something that should be done only hidden somewhere in the darkness...Sad sad world. I totally agree with the question opener. I myself was afraid of nursing in the public and I ended up exclusively pumping (for other reasons) but I was happy I don't need to apologize and explain myself to everybody when I am trying to feed my child. It's sad and it's shameful, meanwhile disgusting and shameful things go on in the world and people celebrate it. If you figure out where to protest against this discrimination against the normal motherhood - let me know!

Answer 5

Hooray for you! Breastfeeding is wonderful and God made us women to have the ability to do it. Bottles we invented by humans but God gave us the breast. If anyone has a problem with it tell them to get over it and as soon as you know where a good place to raise a stink is let me know! I know that there is the La Leche League where you should be able to complain to if anyone tries to kick you out of any establishment you can have a baby in for breastfeeding. If it isn't them then they would know where to complain and might even go to bat for you if it goes to court or something. Good luck and good for you!

Answer 6

Oh, good for you, standing up for yourself, I would do the same! First, your relationship with your higher power is between the two of you and know one else! The bible says, not to judge others, less you yourself wants to be judged; in fact the Lord himself is the only one that is supposed to be judging anyone anyway, right! Breast feeding is a natural and human thing that women are supposed to do, that's why he gave us breasts to begin with, stay true to your beliefs my dear, all of the worlds opinions or advice don't matter really, you are doing what's best for your baby and if the rest of the world is that insecure and petty, tell them to mind their own business. They could try worrying more about the community crime rates, starvation, homelessness and children that are parent-less! You go girl-stand strong! Sincerely, OneDreamCaster

Answer 7

Wow that is horrible. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Babies were born to be breastfed. Don't let others personal issues get to you. They are just ignorant. You are doing the absolutely best thing for your child.

Anyway I'd check out the www.mothering.com and www.kellymom.com forums for info on nurse in's - also contact your local laleache league. Good luck!

Answer 8

Of course its a church cant you just put a blanket over you and the baby when you breastfeed to respect yourself and the church.You dont have to make it obvious that your breastfeeding. You can use a baby blanket to cover anything reveiling. Good luck

Answer 9

personally i would rather my son see a woman breastfeeding and ask me what she is doing so that i can tell him she is feeding her baby than to see a woman walking around with her cleavage all out there and wearing pants low enough to see her thongs.

my son has witnessed many woman (friends and family) breastfeeding and he does not sit there and stare. he doesn't even notice. he is 4 years old.

Answer 10

That is obsured I would not go back either or I would cause a big stink about it that isnt right I hate people who do this It is a natural thing and should be embraced not looked down on.