I'm 40 years old and all my life, I've really disliked being around people, especially large groups. It's not a phobia, nor is it social anxiety disorder nor is it because I have hate issues or anything. I just don't care to be around people.
I find most people to be self centered, self serving and self absorbed or just plain arrogant. It makes me feel very out of place to feel this way, and I've tried to correct the way I feel, but no matter what I do, I still just do not like being around people.
Don't get me wrong, I'm very happily married and love being with my wife and, for the most part, her family. But that's about the extent of it.
Anyone else out there like that?
2007-01-30 11:02:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Yes, I am that way. I have always been that way. I find people are very self-centered, selfish and petty. I don't have time nor energy for the games people play. I hate talking on the phone about nonsense....why do people do that?! Some people talk for an hour on the phone. Sum it up...what do you want....get off the phone! Leave me alone! I love my two kids (one is 30 the other is 18) my husband passed away a year ago...I have a soon to be son-in-law....I love being around these people. I will "see" my other family members but usually only on holidays or birthdays. It's too exhausting and I don't like some of their characteristics...they bother me. My sister is "uppity" my bro-in-law is opinionated, my other sister has a loud mouth and has been having an affair with a married man for 8 years, her son is an unemployed loser that is 150 lbs over weight and lies about everything and anything, my brother is an old hippie (at least he can carry on a decent conversation if it relates to ecology) and his wife is dumber than a box of rocks and smokes too much, drinks too much and has the MOST annoying squeaky voice.....and on top of ALL that my mother is an alcoholic and smokes like a chimney......(she's a fall-down drunk).....Yeah, family gatherings are quite exhausting. This all sounds like a sitcom. I just prefer to stay home where it's quiet and "safe" ....LQTM (laughing quietly to myself)
2007-01-30 11:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by suzycrmchz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know that from a philosophical point of view, people usually dislike qualities in others because they dislike the same qualities in themselves? Maybe you need to look in the mirror and realize that you are no better than anyone else. Also, it may be a case of pride. I'm not trying to criticize you, just enlighten you as to why you may feel this way. We all experience times of isolation, but to live an entire life that way is socially abnormal. Perhaps your wife or children would like for you to examine the reasons why you feel this way so that you may change it....or not. It's certainly up to you but you may be missing out on something much bigger....and no, I don't feel the same way. :)
2007-01-30 19:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by Forever 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most of the time I don't feel like being around people, but I'm very arrogant too.
Do Not allow yourself to be imprisoned by any affection, keep your solitude. It is in deep solitude that I find the gentleness with which I can truly love others. The more solitary I am , the more affection I have for what they are, not for what they say.
~some dude
2007-01-30 19:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way all the time. But I'm in high school. All the girls there are "self serving and self absorbed or just plain arrogant".
2007-01-30 19:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like that all the time. I'm not a fan of meeting new people or being put in groups or really going out in public. It seems like I am always running into the people I want to avoid,so now I keep to myself and my close friends.
2007-01-30 19:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people feel the same way, but we can't admit it in public. We want to be viewed as "friendly and personable". Of course, the reality is that a lot of people just can't be trusted and/or aren't playing with a full deck. So inside, we don't want to interact with strangers when we already have a circle of friends and family.
2007-01-30 19:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by eddygordo19 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find that I'm a misanthrope as well. I've never liked people much. Aside from my boyfriend, family, and good friends, I tend to stray away from people I don't know. This is perhaps a natural human instinct. I don't like it when people look at me. I don't like it when people whisper things about me. Those things tend to happen most when I'm in large groups of people, so I simply avoid them when I can, which is difficult now, me being a college student and all.
An interesting article about misanthropy.
2007-01-30 19:10:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow,you are almost 4 times my age.Anyway I agree with you.I like some people.Most people are just UGH!I can't stand the arrogant,backstabbing,fake,shallow,people llow people who always try and put others down.But that is part of life I guess.At least there are some good people out there.
2007-01-30 19:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I've been that way all of my life. I'm perfectly happy all by myself and prefer the company of my spouse and children.
I enjoy some people's company in very small doses.
2007-01-30 19:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by quietude61 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I need my own space, and if I've been with a group of people for a while, I need to find some time to myself.
2007-01-30 19:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋