I'm 19, I don't have much of a passion to do anything with my life other than becoming a husband and father. I don't want to be a doctor or a lawyer or anything like that. I'd be content with just a manuel labor job and some benefits so I can provide. I have a fiancee. Building a home and a family is all I want to do. I understand the responsibilities and all that so please don't give me a lecture. But I mean, is it "normal" for a 19 yr old to want a family and want to provide of that family?
2007-01-30 10:58:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thanks for the praise everyone, to those to asked I'm from Indiana.
2007-01-30 11:09:23 · update #1
it is probably more common for a woman to feel that way, but there is nothing wrong with it at all. i happen to think that is wonderful! i met my husband at 18, and we were married a year later. all i wanted also, was to start our family. now we've been together 4.5 years, and baby #2 is coming in two weeks!
it really isn't 'normal' to feel the way you do (most people are still partying and being stupid at 19), but everyone is different. your fiancee is lucky to have someone like you!!
2007-01-30 11:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca O 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with that. Being a good husband and father is one of the most noble professions that has ever been. As the father you will probably be primarily resonsible for feeding your family so it is best to find a career. In 2007 you are not likely to find or be able to keep a manual labor job for long. You want a good job with benefits, have you thought about a more technical type job? Something like a car mechanic may be something you would like. If you like kids and don't mind other people's kids, maybe you could be a teacher or daycare provider (there is a sad shortage of men in the lives of little ones whose parents have to work). Finding a career that you enjoy will ultimately make it easier for you to be the husband and father you want to be. If your fiance has a good job etc and you will be a stay at home dad, then great! If you can't be a stay-at-home parent, then I highly recommend that you find a job you will like.
2007-01-30 19:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is exactly why I married my husband. We both wanted that in life and not to be rich or famous or go to college forever. We got married at 19, we both went to college for a bit and got good jobs. Now we are both 20 and expecting our first baby in August. You sound like a great guy! You are going to make a woman very happy someday! If not already.
2007-01-30 19:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by SavvyGrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is great to find a young man that isn't running away from the responsibility of being a husband and father. Just be careful that you don't want so hard that you create the situation, if you know what I mean. Good luck hon. :)
2007-01-30 19:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by Karen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's unusual, yes, but not necessarily right or wrong. I've heard that as people wait for marriage, those marriages tend to last longer than those that marry at a young age because people have more experience, know what they want, and are more likely to weigh out all of the pros and cons of marriage before jumping in. But then, who doesn't know a couple who's been married 30, 40, 50 years plus who got married to their high school or college sweetheart? There is no right or wrong answer, just your own faith and willingness to take that leap. Just remember, forever when you are 19 is a bit longer than forever if you are 35...
2007-01-30 19:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by laylah 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
that's great! you seem to be a great guy! It's not everyday when you hear a guy wanting the responsibilities of becoming a husband and father! I don't think this is odd, i think it's amazing! where you from? lol---well good luck with that,any girl who gets you will be a lucky girl!
2007-01-30 19:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by amanda B 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Listen...
Do WHATEVER makes you happy. If that means starting a family then do it! Don't let the idea of "normal" trouble you. Live your life however you want.
And... lots of people work subtle jobs all their lives and provide for their family.
2007-01-30 19:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by Henry L 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
depends on how fast you grew up, and how you matured.
It seems young to have those feelings but when these young couples have "accidents" and get pregnant, alot of them wish they were with a supportive man such as yourself. Good luck with everything.
2007-01-30 19:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by natalie rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it's normal to feel that way. as long as you think you can do it. it's no different than a woman wanting to have a family and nothing else.
2007-01-30 19:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im 14 and all i want is a family
2007-01-30 20:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by Lara 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋