i really dont want him to go we have a 4 month old son... and am only 15 and really need him...how should i tell him i dont want him to go....
2007-01-30 10:51:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You really need to talk to your Mom
2007-01-30 10:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no need to be mean to her, people!
Listen, sweetie, you should really talk to your boyfriend about this. He may just be trying to fit in somewhere and find a job that will help you all to be a better provider. The Marines may be the right option for him, but you two need to sit down and have a long, serious talk about where you are going to live, what kind of career he could have in the military, etc. If he were to join the Marines, it would be a long, long time before he was paid enough to support a family. Then, go talk to your minister or a family counselor about the goals you BOTH have for your lives. You need to decide together what you are prepared to do to support your child. If you are willing to travel to be with your boyfriend when he's assigned somewhere, then that's great. But if he's just trying to run away from home, you've got bigger issues than him joining the Marines. Go to a counselor first. There is probably a place in your town that offers free counseling for families and children.
2007-01-30 19:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by swade903 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AMAZING!!! I was in your exact position when I was 17. We had a 6 month old daughter and her father joined the Marines. I can only tell you my experiences, noone can tell you what to do.
After he joined, we only talked by letter, obviously, but after boot camp he came home for 10 days and that is when we got engaged. To be honest with you, we wouldn't have made it very far if it hadn't been for the military. A young couple, out on their own, needs all the support they can get. The military, if the 2 of you are married, or get married, offers free medical care for you, your child, your husband and any future children you may have. They offer family readiness groups and support groups to help with deployments and other changes in your life.
We have been married 6 years, this month and I have never been happier. By the way, we are still in the military, and my husband is in Iraq, so I am raising our THREE children on my own. Don't get me wrong, it is hard, but I have tons of support from his unit and I know that he will be home soon. I know you don't want him to join, neither did I, but you have to think of the life it would give you/your child. That child deserves the BEST and if joining the Marines is what he wants to do right now, it's probably for the best. Be mature about this and sit down and talk to him, tell him your feelings and give him a chance to tell you his. Best of luck to you all!!! GOD BLESS THE USA!!!
2007-01-30 19:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 742 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him... Baby I don't want you to go into the marines, we have a 15 month old son.
Furthermore, my fiance is a marine and said DO NOT GO, NOW IS NOT THE TIME, but he understands the pull that he has to the Corps. If he does go make sure he gets a job or MOS that is in the "rear" for example, a fireman, administration, something where he doesn't have to be on the front line. But sometimes that doesn't matter because one difference between the marine corps & other branches is that no matter what your job is in the corps you will still be trained to be on the frontline. All that to say. #$%^&()(""""DON"T GO""""#$#@^$%&
2007-01-30 19:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmmmm. Do you think for one minute he has any kind of a future at his age that will give him security and the ability to take care of his child and eventually you? He is doing what he thinks is right...to stop him will only make him resent you.
Let him be a man.
2007-01-30 19:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is he going?? if its to better himself you can't tell him not to go....you need a life for you and your baby and maybe he is trying to be a good man and make that happen......i feel for you though....my bf just told me that he's leaving in 6 days to go trucking and he wants to do long haul so ill see him one week a year
2007-01-30 19:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by Rhylie and Paiyden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don`t be selfish.. the man is trying to do the right thing for you and his family... to me it sounds as if you want him to not be a man and take responsibility... how old is he? does he have a job? are you on welfare? get real..... it`s time to grow up and let him do what needs to be done...
2007-01-30 18:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that u need his help and cant be raise all urself, he is the father of ur son which he had to help u too
2007-01-30 18:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you know him well enough to have a son with him, you should know him well enough to talk to him.
2007-01-30 18:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he is a father and you need him home with you.
2007-01-30 18:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋