I didn't mean to,but I scared my Mom really bad...?

Question

The other day she freaked out because she saw that my arm had 8 cuts on the underside. She knew that I had done it to myself and she freaked out about it. She had me backed into a corner and then I started crying. I lost it. We talked for about two hours straight,and she thinks that i suffer from depression,even though I assured her that I was fine.
She wanted me to go to a doctor,but my father told her not to send me to one because it would do more harm than good.
I want her to stop worrying about me so much. This happened last night and she is still really upset.

My dad said that I can't go see a doctor about it.Whatever he says goes.

I just did it because it felt good and it made me happy.

Answer 1

you need to get some kind of counseling. this is not nothing and is not fine. believe me I know. one of my Friends killed himself. he started out by just cutting a few slits in his arm. his mom also freaked out when she found out. what happened next is still fuzzy to me, I think that he told his mom that he was fine but she tried to get him to go to the doctor any way. his dad said the same thing your did and he never went to a doctor. the next week he had cut his own throat.

Answer 2

The difficulty with cutting yourself is that you don't recognize that your behavior is harmful. It is unhealthy. Even if you are not depressed, something else is going on. Cutting yourself just doesn't happen when you're in a good state of mind or are "fine".
If I saw something like that on a friend, I would be very very scared. Sometimes people who cut don't realize how badly they have hurt themselves. Sometimes they're upset and can't express themselves. Cutting is not an answer and you run the risk of serious injury or death.
I would take your mother's worry as a sign of love. She cares about you and is concerned for you. If there really is nothing wrong, indulge her and prove her incorrect. See a doctor or a therapist and talk it out.

Answer 3

Well it's not depression it's a brain disorder in which you cut yourself. SO you really need to see a doctor he will help but the dr. is a shrink. He can give you some medcation that will level out your braind fluid. ANd your Dad is wrong it will do more good to see a doctor than not too. Because next time you can get an infection and it might be worse. SO go to your Mom and tell her to make a appointment with a shrink as soon as possible and have her go with you.

Answer 4

Your mom had a right to be scared. You are her child and when something harmful is done to you.

One reason cutting is done is to release or divert pain from one spot to another. Or maybe to feel a sense of control over one's life. Cutting isn't healthy for you and your mom had a right to be worried. You need to talk to some one and figure out why you started cutting.

I agree that going to a doctor may not be the best way to help, it can often make things worse. If you talk to your parents and/or maybe a counselor, you can find an alternative method to relase any pain, stress, anger, frustration, what ever it is, in a different way that won't hurt and possibly kill you.

Answer 5

Child, I wish I could make u understand that you came from your mom, What u guys do really hurts us so bad. I just wonder why you kids tell us not to worry. If you are cutting your self then you have a problem. Something in your mind is not right your agree about something. Talk to your mom she love you very much. Sometime I think that kids feel like we are just nobodies but we love are kids. We never want them to get hurt so time we do some stupid stuff but that why you have a mouth to tell us when we mess up. Parents are not Gods u no.

Answer 6

You may not be depressed, but there is a reason why you cut yourself, even if you're not sure why you did it. I do think it would be good for you to talk to someone, maybe another grown up or a school counselor. I would be worried too (yes I'm a mom, but I cut a couple of times myself). I hope everything works out fine for you.

Answer 7

I think you should go to the doctor about this. This is not normal for some one to cut themselves because it makes them feel better. You just need to tell your dad you need to go because you have a problem. You need to realize you have a problem and get help. How would you feel if someone you loved was harming themselves? Would you try to help them? Well all your mother is doing is trying to help you. If you do not get help it will just get worse and you will have scars all over your body for the rest of you life. I think you should talk to your parents about going to see a doctor or therapist.

Answer 8

Your mother has every right to be scared. Do you have any idea how terrifying it is to know that someone you love is hurting themselves? My best friend has cut herself for years as a result of depression when her parents were "unfaithful" to each other when she was about 9, and it still haunts her to this day. She DOES have depression, though.
If you're not depressed then why are you doing this? I think that you SHOULD see a specialist to find out what's behind this. Please get some help. The last thing that anybody would want is for you to end up getting in too far and committing suicide. I'm not trying to sound paranoid, I just want you to get help. Please.

Answer 9

I think that you need some help. If you want to help your mother, talk to her, and tell her that you're willing to see the doctor on this. Go with her, whatever she says. Once a doctor has given his opinion on it, your mom should feel a bit better. But try to spend more time with her and get to know her better. Don't avoid talking about your problem though. Good Luck!

Answer 10

ok, April. are you telling us that you don't need help? are you saying that hurting yourself is perfectly normal?

First I suggest you educate yourself, find out the reason people do this to themselves, look up self mutilation on the web and there are heaps of books about it. you will find that your Mom wasn't far from the truth.

This is a big deal, not easy to stop without help.and why should you try? there is help, it's usually effective: Take it.

The reason your dad decided that it will do more bad than good, is probably his way of dealing with this: denial. ignore it, it might go away.
well I'm here to tell you that It won't go away by itself,. I'd like you to realize how blessed you are that you have 2 supporting parents who can help you overcome this. most people have to go it solo.
But don't live in denial yourself, face your problem, gain a deep understanding of it and conquer it before it conquers you.

Answer 11

Hello: I am familiar with a similar problem. My best friend heated the metal part of a lighter and burned himself, he made a rounded scar in the middle of his arm, this happened 6 months ago and told me that his parents became seriously worried. He started telling lies about it, telling them that he did that by accident with a hot frying pan. but at the end he told the truth. he did that because he was at a party and it was like a dare. So you should tell the truth, maybe you really need professional help because to hurt yourself is not healthy, mentally or physically.