for instance, she don't know any thing about life. Even though she is working, she was completely dependent, listening & sharing everything to her parents always, not bothers her husband, taking more and more chances for her change even her husband discussed with her regarding her attitude and helping her to change herself.
In the same case, if her father put a case on her husband regarding harassment (feeling that his son in law was troubling her to change her attitude) and that lady was supporting her husband that he was trying to change her,
How would you people respond to this situation if you are in place of her husband..!! (Please no bad / offensive answers.. good answers are highly appreciated and it helps my friend to decide his life further).
2007-01-30 10:45:39 · 10 answers · asked by Sags 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was just replying to a mail where this married lady is facing a lot of trouble because of her married sister in law who is interfering in her maternal family affairs & I was just telling her that such pampered daughters spoil not only their own family life but also others as in her case. What I see in your case a similar pampered daughter is doing the same & spoiling her family life. I myself got a recently married daughter always telling my wife to stop making daily calls to her let her lead her own life as they both decide. This is the correct policy which all parents should apply for their married daughters. Now many of you will say I may not be having any love for my daughter no that is not correct it was only me who loves her the most even more then my son but I know she is not small baby any more but a grown up married lady who has to take care of her family & I should not interfere in her family maters let her husband & her to decide what to do for themselves. For this reason I fully agree with my son in law who is planning for family immigrating to another country. I know that will be taking my daughter thousands of miles away but for the future of her as well my family including my son it will be the best thing to do. So my dear son if you allow me to call you like this why don’t you plans some change of place of work that will take you both far away from her parents. I can understand your feeling as a husband also & know that how much upset you feel when she doesn’t look forward to you for advice but her parents. So if you two are away from them this will make you two more near to each other then she will look forward to you only for any decision. Hope you will give a thought to this!!!
2007-01-30 15:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this problem has a solution....love makes the world go round....but as u said the father puts up a case for harrasment and the lady is supporting her husband that means there is a scope for the relationship to built up may be some more time is required for them as some people take more than usual time in a relationship ....more over the couple should shift to a place where neither parents are staying ...they should be left on their own and it will improve further with lots of doses of love and care as the husband in this seems to be a house maker kind ...one more thing when he feels that the wife is coming back to track he can softly explain her that not to discuss everything with her parents as that is the only thing which is increasing the problem....may ur friend have a happy life!
2007-01-30 15:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by neelu k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing u have not mentioned the period of your marriage span. Then I can give good suggestion. But I observed that yours is new married couple. You told that husband have taken more chances that means greater number in limited time or reasonable time. If u might have given detail picture of circumstances and time bound I can feel better to reply
Any how in one point we can appreciate wife that she is supporting husband and understand that he is trying to change her attitutude and she feels that his attempt is not bat as supported him not her father.
Hence we can assume that she know that she want to change accrding to her husband suggestions. But it takes time since for long time her association with her parental family she might got certain attitudes.
Here we have to see the fater's attitude. He is treating his in-laws attitude to change his daughter, he is feeling it is bad. That means his intentions are wrong and his analysis wrong.
We thank to God that his mentality has not come to his daughter. That is good event to husband part. So you husband has better chances to get his intention to be done.
If Iam in that place I will try to make distance wife from his father as far as possible going in the way and wishes of wife. The the chances will be more.
2007-01-30 18:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by venus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With patience. Remember that she has no idea how a marriage is suppose to be. In marriage you're suppose to grow together. Neither the husband or wife is perfect in their role. The husband should be patient with the wife in showing her how to be a good wife, and vice versa. But as you continue to grow together then your love for each other begin to become more solid and stronger. Love is not a feeling, it's a commitment. It takes time and it won't happen over night. We mess up when we put expectations on each other in marriage, and within a specific time frame. Marriage would go much more smoothly if husbands & wives don't put expectations on each other and forgive each other when the other person messes up.
2007-01-30 10:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by unknown 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were that woman's husband...I would definitely be evaluating the future. If the bride chooses to change and grow with her husband then the bride needs step up and tell her father that. If however, she is telling her father that he is controlling, then the husband needs to find that out. Noone knows how married life is gonna be until they have gotten married....some handle the transition smoothly...others...not so smooth but eventually get the hang of it. If your buddy is in it to win it...tell him to hang on...if he is already having doubts that he can stick with it...then he needs to start dealing with it now rather than later.
2007-01-30 11:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by Miloree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 07:50:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be gentel know her fears and imigenation of maried life.if she was forced into it. undoing it does not help at all. give her the confidence to think for her self.motivate her and let her feel better. things will change. may be its you that requires guidence too, do not feel bad, try to think it overby reading your holy scripture as i feel all holy scripturs have alevel of imparting the knowledge required. but you have to mediatate on it , enlightment comes.
2007-01-30 12:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by julius d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur frnd needs to check if he sounds a bit rude to her, he needs to discuss it vit her, coz her parents cannot lodge a complaint against her wish.
2007-01-30 14:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by Ramya R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone whos married should help wife how to do bills, alot of teach her so she can alot of learned.
2007-01-30 11:03:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a lawyer see a lawyer soon.
You need to get out of this condition, atany and all cost, soon before it gets worst.
2007-01-30 10:54:02 · answer #10 · answered by minootoo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋