This seems like a silly issue, but it has really affected our marriage negatively. We are in our early 20’s and have been married less than a year. I moved half across the country to be with him after we dated long-distance for 2 years.
We were very open about what we did while we were apart. I knew he masturbated, and he knew I did. But since learning that I still do, he’s acting kind of hurt.
He has a stressful job with long hours, and school at night on top of that. He is tired and usually unable to be intimate. And when he is able, he isn’t always willing to “go the extra mile” to make me feel great. In truth, I can do this better for myself (but that isn’t the message I’m trying to send to him).
He said that masturbation takes away from what we have together. That could be true for him, but I’m always ready. There’s plenty of energy left in me -- he just cannot deliver enough.
Am I wrong to do this? Should I expect enough sex from him to keep me satisfied?
2007-01-30 10:35:07 · 6 answers · asked by mtnlady 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is out of bounds. As long as you are "there for him", it should not matter what you do with your self.
Personally, I wish my wife was like you, your hubby ought to thank his lucky stars.
Think of all the women that give their men hell for masturbating, and yet they aren't willing to take care of the need themselves. Sometimes I think this sex thing is 95% about controlling the other person.
It (sex) is suppose to be about seeing that your partner is pleasured... life is a *****, you're suppose to be making it better for your partner by giving them great sex.
Tell your guy I said so.
2007-01-30 12:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In response th e the previous - where in the bible does it say not to masturbate is thou shall not masturbate the 11th commandment?
I think that "it" will keep you satisfied and help keep you from straying. Isnt self pleasurig better than adultery or divorce? I think you need to be there when he needs you for sex to keep the relationship strong, but that is not the problem here is it.
Just dont throw it in his face, (why would you) maybe you can masturbate him a bit and let him do you to relieve some stress?
2007-01-31 16:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by G's Random Thoughts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are fully entitled to have the extra mile. My wife masterbates in front of me and i get even more excited, a real turn on for me!
she usually starts and i end up finishing for her. Alot of fun for both. Wish my wife would do it more but when she does....WOW
tell ya what, ill give you the extra mile every time! Good luck
2007-01-31 01:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by nobody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jesus does NOT condone Masturbation!
You are there for HIS needs and you should do your WIFLEY DUTY only when he wants to have children from you!
Women nowerdays! NO RESPECT ANYMORE!
You know that the Devil makes you do those perverted things you do with your cooter?!!!
Keep it up and you'll go to HELL IN A HAYBASKET!
2007-01-31 16:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are completely right!! Don't for one second doubt yourself!! It's weird that he thinks it is weird.....Lets be honest we all know we haven't experienced an orgasm until we discovered vibrators! lol he is being silly! good luck!
2007-01-30 20:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by Christina L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
does he masterbate? what does he do to relief stress? When your not around? everyone does it with or with out their parnter. Your not wrong
2007-01-30 21:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by Hobit 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋