ok...a friend of mine had some female work done that seperated her from what would have been in nine months....*hint*....the only reason she "claims" to have gone through with it was to stop from having 3 different possible fathers...I didn't even know she was like that, by the way......ok so after the female work was done...she was to wait 3 weeks before resuming any regular female activities...she waited 6 days and had unprotected relations and no protective barrier for the little swimmies meant he didn't feel obligated to u know...she came crying to me with this info....mind u i went with her to the clinic only b/c she had no one else to do so...not even one of the 3 potentials....so when I got upset and blew up on her she was hurt??? what should I do???
2007-01-30 10:29:24 · 14 answers · asked by itsmeuguys 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok..guys 4 more detail...we r in college...she's 22 i've only known her for about 1 year....and she just called and told me that she is going over to her ex's house...yet another guy and sleep with him b/c another guy wouldn't sleep with her last night.....so yeah...now what do u think???
2007-01-30 10:40:53 · update #1
Yes. You should cancel this friendship. It's sad, sounds like she's got some problems, and as much as you want to help her, nothing will change unless she wants to make those changes. Blowing up at her, while not healthy for you - because it's a rise in your stress level (but certainly understandable in the situation given) may help her later on down the line when you are no longer in her life. Sometimes people have a hard time hearing the truth when it's first told to them, but later on actually ponder the meaning and learn from it. We can only hope so for this lady. Good luck in making new friends who have their lives on a better track.
2007-01-30 10:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't just "cancel" a friendship.
Why don't you just talk with her and ask her why she was hurt? Nicely, by the way. Be civil.
But maybe you shouldn't. 'Cause if you think you should "cancel" a friendship, it seems like you don't even want to help your relationship with her at all.
I don't want to sound bossy or anything, but you should be a little more understanding. When you are to her, then she will be to you.
2007-01-30 10:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do....This girl has seriouse issues...it's funny cuz it sounds like my EX hahaha!!! Is her Name Kelli???
If you are really close friends and her friendship means a lot to you ask her if she would consider counseling because her behavior is obviously distructive both to herself and to those who come into contact with her....
good luck I can only see her repeating this distructive cycle over and over until she understands why she is the way she is...
2007-01-30 10:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by Dave B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop being friends. This is her fault and problem. I know it may be hard to do that and leave her when she is hurting and in need. But you shouldn't be dealing with people like that. She is just someone that is not to be friends with... Sorry.... Good luck!
2007-01-30 10:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by Need to know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should 'cancel' the friendship but I think that you should talk to her and then tell her that if she ever gets pregnant again you won't go with her to the clinic.
2007-01-30 10:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by mathura529@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u could try to calmly talk to her now that you've blown off your initial steam. apparently she is so clueless that she needs you to tell her how uncool her behavior is. after that, if she still carries herself in such a dirty manner, I'd love her (as a platonic friend) from a safe distance. no telling what she might spread u know?
2007-01-30 10:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologize to her of course. but, tell her that was your honest feelings/thoughts and that what friends do. is let the truth be known flat out. if it hurt her feelings then be sympathetic. you should be there for your friend, she needs you. that's why she came to you in the first place.
2007-01-30 10:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a skank. Make new friends. You should have better things to do with your time and life than to get involved in this rubbish.
2007-01-30 10:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
friendship is not like a membership from costco that you can cancel anytime. your relationship should not be a parent to a child though you could have educated her as best as you can. however, you should not be assuming a responsibility which is clearly hers.
2007-01-30 10:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow she sounds irresponsible. if you want to be friends with her but she is stressing you out give her some distance, you cant control her life for her tho, she was hurt because you probaly told her what she didnt want to hear.
2007-01-30 11:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by CATWOMAN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋