What should you do if your husband cheat and comely tell you about it?

Answer 1

You should RUN!...because he lost respect for you long before you lost it for yourself.

Answer 2

First, you would want to know why he has done this. If he admits to you and tells you that he was wrong and does want to make the marriage work, then the two of you should seek counseling. If he as called it off with the affair too. But, until you can win his trust again, he needs to prove to you that he is willing to work with you on repairing the marriage that you two once had.

But, if he doesn't want to work it out with you and is still cheating at the same time, I just hope there aren't kids involved, because a broken home makes the kids suffer even more.

Answer 3

Girl!! We can sit and write you a book on what you should do, but the bottom line is what do you really want? If you forgive, separate, go to counseling or divorce him it will all still hurt and you will always remember. You and him need to figure that out. Yet to be honest with you if there is no communication in ya marriage the n you can very much just wrap it up!! communication is the key. Maybe you should talk to him about it..ask him to talk to you about his encounter and what he enjoyed out of it.You will be surprised the info you can pick up that will make your love life and bond stronger thatn ever. So if it is worth fighting for then do it but god didn't say be no fool either!!!! So good luck and be safe

Answer 4

Are you so upset that you cannot even write straight?
Do you mean "what should you do if your husband cheats and calmy tells you about it? If you do then,
I would take a deep breath step back and use my woman intuitions and determine if
1) He is saying it because he wants my approval 2) He wants to see if I will get excited and want to join in on his fun or 3) is so upset with himself that he made such a mistake he doesnt know what to do with himself and earnestly wants your forgiveness. Then I would go from there to determine
1) He is a cad and doesnt need me in his lifestyle 2) Is sick and I need a one way ticket out of here.3) Get to a born again fire baptised preacher and get marriage counciling so that this doesnt happen again if I love him enough to stay married.

Answer 5

It depends. Has he cheated before? Was it under wierd circumstances..a one time thing or was it a relationship over time. I have been married 6 years and together for a total of 10 years. My husband to my knowledge has never cheated on me. If he told me something happened one night while he was out of town working, i would make his life very difficult for a while because I would be hurt, then would demand joint counciling for at least a month. But I would forgive him. I don't think I would have it in me to forgive a long term relationship behind my back. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

At least he's being an adult about it.
If he is sincerely apologetic about it, then it's up to you whether or not you want to remain with him. If you had a good marriage before the affair, think before you act. If your marriage was on the rocks and neither of you were very happy, then maybe you should look into other alternatives.
If you think you can forgive him and move on, then I do wish you the very best.

Answer 7

Then you should calmy ask him what YOU have done as a wife to deglect his needs so much that he had to seek the comfort of another women. At he has told you about his cheating and is trying to get your help.

Not all men are pigs, but all men are in fact...PUPPIES!

My reason for it! (and Dr. Laura said it best)

If you love and care for a puppy, he will ALWAYS come back to you. Give it yummy food, play with it, give it attention, a special "treat" often!!!! And a warm place to sleep, and that lil puppy will be faithful, he will love and cherish you, he will bark at strangers to make sure you are safe, and he will snuggle up next to you when you feel blue. Aren't REAL men like puppies?

BUT, what happens when you neglet that puppy? he hates you, he wants to run away, he wants to find a master who will love him. If you tie that puppy up outside in the cold, it will do whatever it can to chew through that leash to get free (and maybe come back to get food and possibly a little love!)

So, now that your man has confessed to cheating, treat him like a puppy who's been hurt.He knows he's done wrong, he has come to you with his tail inbetween his legs hoping you won't tie him up outside to sleep in the dank, cold, nasty dog house he was in before he started to cheat...

Answer 8

stay calm,then talk to him and ask him if he has any thoughts of how you can try and trust him again and how he would feel if you had done that to him.it´s easy to say leave him,but you know him you know what he is like if this happens more than once then he has lost the respect and love for you,and then you must go for your own sake if this is a one off thing then sit down and talk.tell him how hurt you are and let him realize that it is not a thing that will be forgotten over night but that it will take time.we all make mistakes and if he is really sorry about it then you should give him a chance to try and prove himself to you again.

Answer 9

umm castration... just kidding.. what were the circumstances? at least he came clean with you, yeah thats not enough to make up for it but its a start. Leaving them isnt as easy as it sounds, you should only leave if you feel that you two cant work things out. It will takes tons and tons of work but it is worth it if you feel like things can be mended. It will take you awhile to forgive and it will take him awhile to earn back the trust but can be done, i dont think that unless there is no hope that divorce is the answer... good luck

Answer 10

Leave him. If he can't respect you enough to be faithful then he doesn't deserve you. Telling you about his affair is not a display of honesty, if he was being honest he would have told you he had no intention of being faithful before you were married so that you could have made the decision to drop him.
Don't put up with it.

Answer 11

That is a really difficul place to be in. Did he tell you because he regrets it and wants to work things out with you? Or did he tell you to relieve himself of the guilt? His reasons for telling you are what will tell you if he's worth staying around for and trying to work it out. People do make mistakes, but if he doesn't recoginize his part in what brought this on, the relationship is doomed.