without him knowing, ive tried wreckin a condom before but it didnt work plz help guys cheers x
2007-01-30 10:15:23 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
You don't you are only 16 stop thinking about having a baby and enjoy your child hood. Sheesh why would you want a baby when you are a baby yourself. Graduate high school at least and might I suggest wait until you are much older so your parents don't have to raise your child.
KIDS ARE NOT ACCESSORIES THEY ARE A LIFETIME COMMITMENT
2007-01-30 10:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 0⤋
I know that you probably do not want to hear this but...Having a baby is a decision that has to be made by the two of you. You have to discuss this what your boyfriend as well and it looks to me like you have and he doesn't want one. You are still young and although you may think you are wise beyond your years you still have a lot more to learn. You also stated in your other post you have enough money but that does not mean that it is the proper time for you to have a child. Once you have a child you lose all of your independence and you are still young and have many things to experience. Having a child means having another person's life that you have to put before your own. You need to clearly think this over better and see the pros and cons of the situation. I am still not sure why you would want a baby at such a young age. Good luck to you but always remember that when you have a baby it will also be your boyfriends responsibility and if your boyfriend does not want a child who is to say that he will stick around when he hears the news (not saying that it would happen but it is a possibility). You need to really think about your boyfriend wants also not just your wants.
2007-01-30 10:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Kelly, have you ever thought about babysitting? I know its
not the same as your own, but that is where I would start.
Having a baby is a great undertaking, its just not something
you can do and then if you do not like it walk away from the
responsibility in a month or 2. Have you asked yourself why
you have the desire to have a baby at the age of 16?
Maybe you may feel this will make up for something in your
life that is lacking? If so, than what about starting there and
try to deal with that. The bible saids that babies are gifts
from God, and a 2 parent family is what will make child
rearing successful, if both parents are truly parenting.
2007-01-30 10:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by itsmissjackson 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? You are to young to have a baby. You need to get an education get married and then have a child. If your boyfriend doesn't want a child then you should not force him to have a child or messing w/ the condoms to get pregnant. That is so stupid. You and your boyfriend will probley not end up staying together..he will have a child he doesn't want...and you will be a young single parent with no education and be on welfare. Why would you want to do that to a child? You need to think about the child before you start thinking about yourself..and thinking about just trapping your boyfriend so he will stay with you because he won't even if you have a child. You are trying to bring a child into the world where his/her father would not want him. You should think about these things before you start making decisions to get pregnant.
2007-01-30 10:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by MB 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
OMG are you extreme?? look, i be attentive to women have a comfortable spot of their hearts for having a happy family contributors of their very own. yet do you have any theory the concerns you have good now in case you have a baby? they are no longer inexpensive at first. Your little activity which you have good now, is nowhere close to what a baby costs. you're speaking 6 digits each year!! Why are you in this type of rush? Why no longer do it the splendid way. Wait until eventually you're out of faculty, somewhat older, MARRIED and function the money to shelter a baby! Why might you want to throw your adolescents away for the reason which you adore somebody and experience you ought to have a baby with him?
2016-09-28 05:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait please. Most of my family did not and they wish they would have. You have time ahead of you. Wait until you are really ready. Even if you think you are, you don't know how hard it is. You do not get to have time to have fun and your responsibilities are no longer for yourself. I would be stupid to help you when I do not agree with young girls trying to get pregnant. There are enough who do not plan on getting pregnant. Why do you want to deceive your boyfriend? That in and of itself shows irresponsibility. I'm not saying don't have sex, but be responsible. If he does not want a child you could end up raising him/her yourself and you don't know how much work it really takes. And why force someone who does not want a child in the first place. He sounds very responsible and he does not want children for a reason. And poking holes in a condom? That really shows responsibility. What if you were to get an sexually transmitted disease, or he got one? I sometimes wish you would think these things through. A child is not a commodity, or accessory, and they do not always love you unconditionally. They hate you because they get in trouble, can't go out late or get in trouble. I'm not saying you do not love them or the other way around but they will not always love you.
13 weeks and 3 days pregnant
2007-01-30 10:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Think about a few things before you do this like the fact that you can't support a baby at 16 without major help that your boyfriend would not probably offer because he's not ready to be a dad. THen think about the fact that even if you did pull it off and get pregnant, your boyfriend would leave you if he ever found out. Then you would be alone and unhappy with a baby. If after all this and you still want a baby the only thing you can do is hope there is a mistake made during sex and exactly the right time of the month. I hope you make the right decision.
2007-01-30 10:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 7⤊ 3⤋
I know you think this is what you want right now but seriously you should wait until you are at least 18. Finish school. What about collage? Do you want to be on public aid for you and your baby? When my husband and I had our 1st baby we were not married, he didn't even have his GED and I didn't ev en have a job. It has been a long hard road honey-we are finally off public aid. It is nice to have help but I felt like sometimes we were treated different at doctors appts because we were on public aid. I'd never change a thing because I love my babies but I wish we were more stable. Just try being 16! Have fun and enjoy no responsabilities while you can. Think about it.
2007-01-30 10:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by 2princesses 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Kelly, I think you need to talk to someone professional. A baby is a life changing responsibility and will change your life forever. Besides, you still have so much to experience in the next ten years. Wait until you find the right person who wants to share it with you for real instead of forcing it to happen. You will be sorry if you try to get pregnant now.
2007-01-30 10:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by mom3x 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Kelly what is the reason you want this baby so much? Do you think he will stay with you forever because of the child? He won't .However you will affect his and your future as neither one of you can afford a child at your age which means you are starting a new life of debt. Debt for you, your family, his family society and most of all this baby you want so much. A good mother puts her child first not herself. A good mother is honest in her relationship with others. Until you can do these things you are not ready to have a child, but are acting like one yourself.
2007-01-30 10:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by Grianagh 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You don't! You are still a child yourself. I do speak from experience, I had our oldest son when I was a senior in high school (17 yrs old)...we love him to death and couldn't imagine not having him but it changes your entire world. When you have a baby YOU have to grow up...your wants, desires and issues come in secondary to what the baby needs and the baby will get all of the attention (is that what this is about? You want attention?) No more expensive clothes, running around with friends and pouting like a spoiled teenager (which is what you sound like). This is not about you, think about the baby you want to have.......what kind of life can you give a baby if you are only 16? I had to change my plans about college and my future so it has effected every aspect of my life, I didn't get to go to my senior prom.
2007-01-30 10:24:28 · answer #11 · answered by paula0005 2 · 9⤊ 0⤋