2007-01-30 09:59:54 · 25 answers · asked by lovingkim33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you didnt know what to do u wouldnt ask....your an adult use your head for once...
2007-01-30 10:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes ppl are attracted to the "Marriage", and not the man.
A married man is attractive only because he has made a commitment, and loves another woman. What type of man is he if HE breaks the vows??? In my opinion, this turns him into a monster and all attractive qualities he has disappears.
I too have been attracted to married men ... but being a person who falls deeply in love person’s personalities, and the events I concur with them ... it became obvious that a married man would never offer these qualities. In fact, my attraction was the longing I had to have that special bond with someone that I saw the married man portray.
Luckily, I never took the bait of the married man; but he did run my brain into the ground.
2007-01-30 18:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Funny how all these people assume you are having an affair already. Even though you have not said anything about such a thing. Only that you are in love with a married man. Don't fret about all the sanctimonious replies you will get. This website is a huge magnet for judgemental morons.
Ask yourself what qualities this man has that have caused you to fall in love. Then look for the same or similar in someone that is unattached.
2007-01-30 19:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by mud_creek2001 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I was once in your situation and with all my heart I beg you to try to back away!
My Dad, God bless him, was tempted by other women and it has affected the whole family terribly. I swore that I would never become involved with a married man but never say never unfortunately. I was involved with this man against my better judgement and against all that I believed in for four terrible years. I have never been so depressed and in such trauma. I felt terribly guilty about his family and yet was too entangled to back off. Because I knew that what I was doing was wrong I leant further into him and away from my friends so that I needed him more and more. I waited always for the occasions when he might have been free for me and was even further separated from the rest of the world. my world revolved around him and yet he didn't just have me, he had his family too. I wasn't all important and I felt very, very lonely but quite unjustified in my self pity because nothing could shake off the knowledge that I was wrong, I hated myself. Finally repeated prayer saved me and the break happened more smoothly than I could have hoped for. I pray now that he and his family can be happy together but truthfully I know that it is very likely that he shall go on looking for diversions outside of his marriage. Sorry to have laboured this but I do hope and pray that you shall have the strength to go with your mind and not your heart and that you shall know that you are worth far more than this wasting of a very precious life. God bless you.
2007-01-30 18:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by lolphillips163 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Number 1 - Dont screw his life up
Number 2 - Dont screw your life up
Why - his life and yours (if he chooses to keep you) will be forever screwed up. You and he will end up with a jealous relationship later on because you know he is willing to cheat
If he gets a divorce on his own even you should give him some time to recupate before beginning a relationship.
Keep looking - not all the good ones are married. And yes you can fall in love more than once
2007-01-30 18:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by G's Random Thoughts 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is he happily married? Is he willing to give up his wife, kids, etc...for you? Does he even know you're interested in him? Does he love you beyond everything in his life right now?
If so, then I'd say do what it takes to be happy, but keep this in mind...
How will you feel after you and he are together and someone else comes along and falls in love with him?
Be careful what you wish for...
2007-01-30 18:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself how YOU'D feel if you were his wife, and he was messing around with someone else. What kind of foundation are you building for a relationship with him if you are wrecking a home he's already in. People should finish the relationship they are in before starting another. That's just common sense. And what makes you think he won't find someone to replace YOU later like he's replacing his wife WITH you? I'd be wary of getting involved with someone that can't take commitments such as marriage seriously.
2007-01-30 18:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please just take a moment and understand what you are asking. Please think of his wife and his children and all his other family. If you really love him, this means you care about him and the people he cares about. You don't want to inflict pain or stress on a man you say you are in "love" with. Let his wife and hisself have a fighting chance and if it is meant to be, someday you'll have your chance, but whatever you do, don't break up the marriage because someday, even if you two would end up together, he and his (ex)wife and his kids will throw it up in your face. Could you really live with yourself... destroying someone else ENTIRE life?
Good luck, sweetie.
2007-01-30 18:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by Unemployed MBA 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Food for thought:
If a married man leaves his wife for you, there will be a good chance he will do the same to you when another comes around.
It will end in heartbreak. Stay away as far as you can.
2007-01-30 18:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by n9wff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. Married men are a waste of time and effort.
2007-01-30 18:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
run girl run. Do it for yourself. The foundation of this relationship is based on lies and decent which means this relationship will never amount to anything even if he marry's you. If he cheated on her he'll do it to you.
2007-01-30 20:05:51 · answer #11 · answered by spirit2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋