Should I have another baby?

Question

I have 3 children ages 8, 15 and 17(the 17 yr old is not biologically mine) all boys, and 4 great stepkids(they live with their mom). My husband and I have been together over 3 yrs and recently married last August. He wants 'us' to have a baby. I'm not really sure it's the right thing. I'm 37 and not sure it's still safe to have a baby. I don't want to have an unhealthy baby because of my aging eggs =) He really has been talking about it a lot lately. We don't use birth control but I know my cycle and avoid my ovulation time. The thing is, he also knows my ovulation time and really hounds me like a crazed maniac lol.....kidding. He really wants this. What should I do? I wouldn't mind having another baby if I knew it would be healthy and a hopefully a girl this time!! I'm torn. I had planned to start working on my masters in special education and actually go out into the workforce since we'll be buying a new house this year I need to.

Any advice?

Thanks to all =)
Tori

Answer 1

If this is something that the two of you want I think you should go for it. If you really don't want to have another baby, don't let your husband talk you into it. But I think everything will be fine I have a 12 year old, 10 year old (my husband's son) and an 8 month old and it's great! It's a situation similar to yours, my husband really wanted to have a baby together, so I thought about it and agreed. I am 35 and if you pray and have faith, God will work everything out. Things work together for the good to them that love the Lord! Good luck. I have all boys too! I love it!

Answer 2

You mentioned that you planned to get your masters degree. For someone who supposedly loves you so much, why would he ask you to give up your dream? That's basically what he's asking you to do.

Also, if you need to get a job to pay for a house, how is having a baby and adding more debt going to help your cash flow situation. So, now, he is asking you to eliminate the extra income that having your masters degree would bring in, and also taking away more of the money you both already make to pay for this baby he wants. There's no way you're going to be buying a new house later this year if you do this.

Besides all of that, you haven't even been married a year yet, why is he in such a rush? I know you've been together for a few years before you were married, but wouldn't you like to enjoy being married for a while without having to deal with morning sickness and swollen ankles? It seems like he thinks he needs to lock you in with a kid.

His behavior is not typical and doesn't seem to be grounded in reality. If I were you, I would get on birth control as soon as possible, and then sit him down and have a serious discussion with him and find out what his motivation is, and why he hasn't thought out all of the practical and financial repercussions.