I'm a lesbian and love pleasing women.........? But I don't , I think somethings wrong with me, what is it?

Question

I love pleasing women in every form, if possible and if they let me. I've never had any complaints, but i was once told I don't like receiving anything from a woman sexually. She wanted to please me and I wouldn't let her. I don't know why, just want some imput on the topic

Answer 1

i can sort of relate to this.. when i gave oral sex to my girlfriends, it was like the most amazing powerful passionate experience of my entire life, but when it was my turn to receive, i felt very nervous and uncomfortable.. i think it may have to do with self=esteem and how i felt about my body.. plus, i am a very independant person. i am so used to masturbating alone, that introducing another person into my bed was very scary.. i think it just takes time to get used to...

once you have been in a long trusting and loving relationship, you will eventually get comfortable with another person touching you or pleasing you etc.. at least i hope that's the case..

meanwhile, try not to worry about it. enjoy the giving you are comfortable with, and slowly start opening up..

i think it may help to take baby steps.. instead of letting her give you oral sex, start with just letting her rub you, even with your underwear still on.. slowly get used to her touching you.. and only progress further once you have reached total comfort with the level you are at..

Answer 2

it's called a stone butch. you don't need to actually be butch, but that's the term that's been used in the past. this isn't a phenomenon you see as much these days... to tell you the truth i don't understand the phenomonon entirely, but i can certainly understand the sentiment. i think you just need to find someone really special, but then again, maybe you don't need it at all. if that's you, that's ok too, but know that for whoever you are with, you are depriving them of the same pleasure that you get pleasing them.

Answer 3

Some women do not like to recieve. I know that I rarely allowed reciprocation when I was younger. I still generally prefer to avoid it with one-night stands.

There are so many reasons why a person might like one sexual activity but not another. Some women are stone, they don't like to be touched, it's antithetical to their idenity. Some women are tops who get off on ******* another girl.

edit:
oh, hello lover whose post is above mine.

Answer 4

Just like how some guys just like being on the bottom only when they're doing stuff with a guy?

The last time I checked, I think I'm normal?

Everyone has their own preferences though?

Answer 5

You may just be a giver and not a receiver. My girlfriend use to be like that. She's a tomboy/butch and she had serious hesitancies about women going down on her. But i got her comfortable with it.

Answer 6

Well simply put you are more the type to please. You love to please but you might not enjoy being pleased. Making the female is what makes you happy and you dont need/or want anything in return. Pleasing is enough for you.