What is wrong with me?

Question

Okkk..I am 17 years old and going through many changes..I am very outgoing and known to be a social butterfly in school and out. I always thought I was committed and I know that I want to make it in life but now that I am a bit older I feel like I am not taking life seriously like I should. Some things are; have not took one SAT, can't stay in a relationship bc I get bored, wont keep a job, oh and when I have a job I forget that I get paid..have not tried to get my license..oh and I feel like noone can tell me what to do. In school and out I always undermine authority but not in a disrespectful way. Noone takes me serious and the little people that do expect way to much out of me!..Im not sure what to do

Answer 1

You are still pretty young and still finding your way. You may feel older but you still have a long way to go. You are also on the brink of finishing high school and stepping out to the beginning of your adult life. That's why you are putting off things like the SATs and getting your license. I suspect you are little afraid of taking the next step toward taking responsibility for your own life. It's OK - a lot of people feel that way - I did. And I am OK today.

People who are 17 often don't want to listen to anyone, but it will pay off in the long run if you do try to learn this skill. You can learn a lot by listening to others. If you are undermining authority, you are in a way showing disrespect even if it is not overtly. The reason people don't take you seriously is because you aren't treating them seriously in return.

So.....take a deep breath, try and listen to others (after all, you want people to listen to you!) and start chipping away at the things you know you need to do to move forward, even if it is a little scary. One success will build on another. Sign up for the SAT, practice your driving and build your confidence. Don't get shaken if you have a setback - you can always take a driver's test or an SAT a second time if you don't pass. This is the time in your life that if you screw up, you still have time to try again.

And on relationships, you have lots of time to see lots of different people and not get serious. In a short time you will be out of high school and exposed to a whole new group of people and it will open your eyes. You are more likely to meet someone who is a lot less boring when that time comes. That sure happened for me - the guys I met in college were far more interesting than anyone I ever met during high school. So it's ok to be patient in that area.

Answer 2

For one, you are 17, there is plenty of time to get your act together. You should sit down and write out some short and long term goals. Like taking the SAT and ACT. Go to school. You can be serious about furthering your education while still being care free and a little on the not so serious side. You can be care free and still be goal driven.

Some have dreams, others have goals, while others do both. Dreams are what you do when you are sleeping, goals are what you do when you are awake. You don't have to have all the answers at this age, but keep moving forward, especially in the education department. I wish you well in your travels through life. The best part is the journey, not the destination.

Answer 3

People won't take you serious until you take yourself seious. Those other people you mention are trying to take advatage. Reading your question though, it seems you know what the problem is already. It is a growing problem in this country that children are never taught proper responsibility, but you can teach yourself. Buy a journal, spend some time and make a plan. Be sure to cover the things you mentioned, SAT, job, etc. but not relationship (relationships should not be planned out on paper, where's the romance in that) Once you have your plan down, you have to follow it, and make adjustments as you go. read the journal every day when you get up and every night when you go to bed. If you get a pocket journal you can carry it with you and read it any time you need a reminder. Over time things will become more automatic, and you'll see a difference in the way people look at you, because they see the difference in how you look at yourself. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

Not only are chemical changes taking place in your body but your brain especially. So there are those mixed up feeling, mood swings. Dissatisfied, bored to death if something doesnt keep you feeling euptopic. It sometimes begins to feel life is not worth living. Then later the reality of what is expected of you as an "adult." That you will be accountable, productive and pay your way adult. Just as the thousands that were before you and those that will go through the same feelings you have now, will come after you. The thing is to get through them without going insane, crazy or in jail. Take one day at a time. Plan out what you need to do. Don't focus on what you did yesterday, or what you need to do tomorrow or next week. Write them down of course. Have a daily planner. As you make progress through each event throughout the day you will see you have accomplished alot mentally as well as physically.
I only know one person who keeps my feet on solid ground when everything seems upside down. So if your not rooted and grounded in Christ things will continue to sway you when situations come your way. With Christ he will give you strenght when the adversary comes and tells you life isnt worth living, end it all! Or (at 20)see all your friends are getting married and your going to be all alone. There is nobody for you. So you just want to be attached to someone because you dont want to feel left out. You marry the first person who asks you, thinking you can work it out. If you arent divorced within 2yrs or have 2.5 kids in tow (it will be amazing!) Waiting on God for daily direction and especially for that mate(for life) would reduce alot of the heart ache that comes from being young, dumb and headstrong. If I could do it over I would rely on a God who knows about tomorrow, today.

Answer 5

The problem I think is that between the ages of 16 and 24 people change so much and so quickly that anything that seems real and right one year, doesn't matter the next. You aren't the full "you" until you hit mid-twenties. The best anyone can do in that period is just do the best they can, for as long as they can, and hope at the end of it, they're on the direction they really want to be on. If they aren't, hopefully the person they become is strong enough to get onto that path.

So never be too hard on yourself for finding that period hard, anyone with half a mind does.

Answer 6

Dear heart, life is tough and can get us down real quick but it is up to us not to let it we have to have an I can attitude not when I get to it attitude, this world is tough on young people with it's instant gratification syndromes but babe life isn't instantly gratifying, unfortunatley we as humans have to make our own way in this world, I know I was once in your shoes and more I come from an abusive background, a life of poverty and it took me a while to realize that the only way I was going to make it in this world was to get off my duff and get busy living life it sounds like you have some goals and want to get somewere so do it, there is a saying by a man named Neopolan Hill "what the mind can concieve and believe the mind can achive" I have lived this for quite awhile I have gone from nothing to being successful as a Real Estate broker, a wife and mother no I did not get there overnight and I tried many different things but I did get there, Get Busy Baby and be what you can and smile!

Answer 7

I would suggest you seek professional help. This probably isn't the best place to find answers concerning your issue, although I've heard great things about Yahoo! Answers, I wouldn't hesitate to seek professional advice. Your young and probably just need a little guidance.

Answer 8

For some reason i feel like ur talkin like me, i feel that im headed towards that path , but i realized how much i really wanted to sucseed in life so im startin now as a freshman, i suggest gettin up on ur feet and pick up ur life now!

Answer 9

You seem to have teenageritis... Perhaps if you can set a goal for yourself it will help you to focus and keep you on task when you get bored, forgetful, disgusted with a situation.

Answer 10

it takes time to find where you belong in life it took me 28 yrs but i found it just dont give up and if you are bored with somthing try somthing new