I have been hounding my husband lately about drinking almost every night. I get tired of the way he acts when hes under the influence. He is silly acting, and he gets on my nerves! I laugh at him because he IS funny and I drink socially when we are out together on weekends but I am afraid he is going to start showing undesirable behavior, and get a DUI or drink more often than only at night. He claims that "hes not hurting anthing, and has it under control, and only does it at night to loosen him up when he gets off work." I dont know...I feel like I have no reason to judge him or worry, as long as its not negatively affecting him or our relationship. Is he an Alcoholic or does it sound like I worry too much?
2007-01-30 09:32:31 · 15 answers · asked by HappyGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are documented criteria for Alcoholism: one of them is daily drinking. Another fact to seriously bear in mind is that this "disease" is progressive. That is to say, things get worse as time moves along. Your husband does not sound like he's very bad right NOW but you mention he's getting on your nerves and I can well identify with that. People who do not suffer from this disorder have a limited and difficult time of comprehending it but a lot of it has to do with the spirit in which the alcohol is consumed. Normally, alcohol is a socially acceptable legal indulgence that we enjoy for lubricating social function, romance, relaxation and celebration. The alcoholic needs it (eventually) the way a drug addict requires his/her drug. Analcoholic takes booze like medicine to ease pain, anger, frustration, fear, etc . This is bad. Your husband does sound as though he is a prime candidate for developing a problem and you would do well to monitor the situation closely. There is a 12 Step Program called Alanon which can afford you a lot of help should you in time find the need.
2007-01-30 09:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband does the same thing he drink almost a bottle of a vodka every night. the only good thing is he can still manage to go to work in the morning. and when he is drunk he just go to bed and wake up in the morning with smile.the only worries me so much is he drinks a lot.and he tells me all the time that he use drink 2 bottle of vodka a day when he was in hes 30's now he's only 41
i dont know what to do to make him slowdown he's drinking
2016-04-19 10:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by irene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he "need" the alcohol? Has drinking changed his behavior in any way? Does he alter his plans in order to have a drink? Has his tolerance towards alcohol increased (a sign that his body is becoming physically addicted)? Does he show signs of withdrawal?
One drink a day can make a person an alcoholic...it really depends on the individual.
2007-01-30 09:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by Shelley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't MAKE him change. He's gotta want to do that himself. If his drinking bothers you to the point of distraction, tell him about it. Let him know how you feel and that if he continues to do it, there will be problems.
It's when he can't control it anymore that the big problems start. And in my opinion, any person who gets behind the wheel after drinking, deserves what they get when caught if not more.
I'd be keeping a close eye on his habits. If you ask him to stop, and he loves you enough to consider your thoughts and feelings, he will. If he won't then he's either beligerent, or he can't stop. Either way it's something that'll need dealing with.
2007-01-30 09:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who enjoys a glass of wine every night after work, I agree with your spouse that it helps you relax from the stresses of the day. However, the way you put it, it seems that he may be having more than one drink, and if so, that could be a potential problem in the making.
2007-01-30 09:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by tlc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone has to have a drink every day (night) regardless of the amount, they are an alcoholic.
2007-01-30 10:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by ~MIMI~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are telling him you're concerned and he's blowing you off, it is hurting your relationship. Maybe you and your husband can find some other way for him to relax. Some kind of new hobby or something.
2007-01-30 09:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Charles 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From a 20yr clean and sober guy....the bottom line is that if alcohol is causing problems in your life.. Then You have a problem with alcohol.
2007-01-30 10:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by dandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now you are probably worrying a little too much but that is not to say that it couldn't become a problem....it also will probably result in some weight gain, is dehydrating, and generally not healthy to drink that much.....keep an eye on things...good luck
2007-01-30 09:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he can't function properly without getting drunk every night then I'd say he has a problem.
2007-01-30 09:40:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋