Did you every married someone for securtiy but deep down you really wanted to be with someone else??Did it work out??? did you ever wanted to leave your wife to go back to that person you still loved??
2007-01-30 09:20:01 · 7 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since I married for love and not security, I am still with
my wife and will continue to love her thus continue to
be with her.
2007-01-30 14:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is a long time.
Remember when you were say 15 and fell in love with the boy next door who you thought you were going to marry? Or remember when you were say, 10 and your dog was your bestest friend in the whole world and no one could ever replace him?
The point being, the opinions you once had on a range of things, you no longer have now as you've matured. 5 years, 10 years is a very long time and your perspective on him and love and the world is going to evolve.
You might think now, "yeh, I can hold it down that I kinda only married (or are going to marry or whatever) him because of security and I can handle it", but project that 10 years into the future... How will you feel then, 10 years down the track and having 'kept that feeling deep down'?
Is it possible you'll regret it or find the stress too much. One thing we want as we get older is to truly know ourselves. Also, things like true friends, trust, honesty, integrity, etc, all become more important than ever.
The problem is we fear conflict, and loss. So right now, that's perhaps what's on your mind... I don't want the argument, I don't want to hurt and loose him, etc.
If you don't have the conversation now... it's likely you'll be wanting that conversation in a few years because of the emotional pressure. And that's all it is... a conversation... maybe you're just worried you're with the right person - maybe it's not that you truly married him for security... the mind can play games. An honest conversation about how you feel will solve it - you'll either both work it out and live hapily ever after, or you won't and you'll divorce or whatever. You have to be willing RIGHT NOW to have either of those things happen or take the risk that when your needs change, when you mature, when your opinions change, when you want truth and honesty, that you're going to be having the conversation anyway... and it'll be one of the hardest conversation you've ever had.
2007-01-30 17:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Adam F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like daily misery.No, I married the woman I love.
2007-01-30 17:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Pimpstick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i getting marry for the right reason because she my soul mate and its took 51 years to find her but to your question why get marry in the first place marriage is not a game if god want it to be a game he want of put dices inside of the bible
2007-01-30 17:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is last life resource for me,its the top of love ,u r in tight spot
2007-01-30 17:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by reifguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a nightmare scenario. haven't done it..
2007-01-30 17:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by Myself 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I'm not crazy.
2007-01-30 17:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋