Well, here it goes. For 5 monthes of our relationship he has been cheating on me with 7 different girls online. (cybering, trying to get two of them down here, telling them he loves them, and stuff like that.) Well, the way i found out was went through his yahoo achives. I was shocked and when i asked him about all of it. He said" I didnt think online was cheating". Im so confused! I love him to death,he means the world to me, i fell like i cant live without him, and he hasn't recently cheated on me but im worried he might do it again. What should i do???
2007-01-30 09:18:01 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen, I know you think you love this guy and want to built a life with him, BUT he is full of s#$%!. There is no way he did not know he was cheating on you, telling other girls he loved them? Give me a break. You say you love him to death, do you love yourself to death? He has already cheated. What you really should do is give the ring back, change your phone and cell number and not look back not even for a second. Because, the decision you make now will affect your future...If you decide to stay, you will be in this position a few months if not a few years down the line. Will you then wonder why you did not leave when God gave you a sign? Believe me the next time, and they will be a next time, you may not be so lucky to walk away without anything to loose. So you have a way out now, I would suggest you grab it and RUN. You can always make new mistakes, but do not make the same one again.
2007-01-30 09:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on if you're willing to live the REST OF YOUR LIFE wondering when this internet "player" will do something else. If you don't have trust...you have nothing. If he's playing now, when you're not even married, don't expect him to change if you do get married. Yes it IS still cheating, and the fact that he's trying to meet up with people for REAL should send a clear message to you about who he is. Look out for yourself! You know good and well you deserve more than this, and with as many people as there are in the world right now, why should you settle for this? Let him play, you find yourself a hero, and drop that zero!
2007-01-30 09:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds sneaky to me and I think he will do it again. You know him better then anyone on here, but just from past experience... if he sees nothing wrong with that in the first place, that is a big problem. I would take a few steps back at the very least. See what he does. Don't rush to the alter, if there is already a date set.. post pone it by another year. Better to find out now then later.
2007-01-30 09:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run fast, run hard and don't look back. If he's already looking for outlets and your honeymoon hasn't even started, you have to think about what your marriage will be like. What was he going to do with the two girls he was trying to get down there? He's up to no good and it's a good thing you found out before marriage and kids. Once again, RUN AWAY!
2007-01-30 09:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him and want to work it out, try going to counseling before you decide to get married. A man doesnt plan to meet another woman for no reason at all.
If the two of you can talk to one another and find some solutions as to why he would look for another relationship and cyber online maybe you can become closer and work things out. good luck
2007-01-30 09:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa... He was trying to get them to come and visit... Honey... If he hasnt cheated already, he is going to. Dont marry this guy just to end up unhappy with some uncurable STD later on in life. Life is TOO short to be unhappy. I know its hard, but leave. There is a guy out there that will treat you right and not let you down like this guy has. Good luck
2007-01-30 09:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is doing this now he will do it when you are married. The two of you need to go for some pre-marital counseling. If he won't take responsibility for what he is doing and change his ways then definately don't marry him, at least not for now. I know you love him but please don't rush into anything. Work this out with a professional. Remember when Clinton said he didn't think what he did was sex....well it was and what your fiance is doing is definately not respectful of you and is cheating...
2007-01-30 09:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok now it's time to become a real women here. First of all if you care about yourself this question would not be a issues. It's time to wake up and get a life and find someone else or better at it stay single for a while and find out who you are and what you want out of life. I would not be calling him a "my fiance" by no means.
2007-01-30 09:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by Animal_lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i wish i had someone cheat on me...oh wait they did! And its not fun when they do...if you seriously think hes going to change you must be mistaken obviously hes doing it because he wants to. No one dose something just because, they do it because he wants to, it makes him feel like if it don't work out with you hes got backup to brake his fall. Don't walk in the dark open your eyes and see that if he did it once hes going to do it again and again...and so on.
Trust me I'm a guy if i want to cheat on a person i will do it no matter if they love me to death. Just because i feel like it, and because i want to do it. So don't give him a brake if he doesn't value you now. What makes you think he will value you when your married. Find someone better, cheating is cheating physically or emotionally.
2007-01-30 09:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by MelF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater
Dump him and find someone WORTHY of your love.
Oh, I came back to add this. Feel blessed that Fate was kind enough to tap you on the shoulder and whisper an "Ahem" in your ear BEFORE you married him and brought children into a situation like this.
Be a wise woman and take the hint.
2007-01-30 09:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by M S 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋