You are right on the money. He is probaly all that you know and if you find yourself wondering about single life is because is time to move on.
No kids and no marriage? Go for it before is too late. When you get married and have kids then you are locked in without the privelegge of finding out what's out there. Do it now and then decide if married life is for you. Honestly, you are too young and need more experience before taking the plunge. I commend you for being right on.
I understand that you are scared of losing him, but arent you more scared of losing yourself?
Good luck
2007-01-30 09:24:48
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answered by Blunt 7
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Is it the living alone or being single that attracts you the most? If you wonder what it would be like to date other guys that's one thing, the only way to do that is to lose your BF and move on.
If you just want to live on your own and still date your BF, think about this. You are only responsible for your own messes and have control of the remote at all times. However, most of your conversations will be over the phone and unless you decide to stir things up, things can get pretty boring and going to bed alone, is well, lonely.
If you love your guy, maybe you need to change your lifestyle until you love it too. Travel, go out, throw parties, get involved in your community, take a class. Don't just work, come home, scarf something, watch TV & go to bed.
You don't have to be single to have a great life. You don't have to be married to have one either. Just get passionate about your life and live it every day.
That's the only way to avoid regret.
2007-01-30 09:33:02
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answered by Jewel C 1
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Hello,
I 2 am 23 years of age and have been with my girl for about three years now. We live together and have a 1 year old girl. From time to time I ask my self the question that you are asking. Would I be better off with out her? Think of it this way. When you where younger and you two met, you felt good and alive. You where half and so was he. Now that you two have gone this far and became a whole, try to think not it would be like to be single, but what it would be like without him or become a half again. I know it sounds like the same question, but if you think about it, it's not.
2007-01-30 09:20:21
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answered by mb8kr 1
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Its good that you are thinking of this now , before you get married, but what are your real reasons for these thoughts, are you having second thoughs about getting married, are you sure hes the one for you ? after all if hes the only one youve been with since you were 16 , Im sure you have thought at sometime "what else is out there " well let me tell you the grass is not always greener on the other side, but I do think its important that you have the chance to experience life for yourself, you may find you love him so much you can tlive without him.
Best of luck
2007-01-30 09:16:59
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answered by Painted Cowboy 2
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I met my husband at 16, started dating at 17, got engaged at 19, got married at 21. He's the only guy I have ever been with and I never lived on my own before getting married. I lived at my parents house and got married, moved in with him.
I SO WISH that I would have listened to my parents and lived on my own and grown up a bit. I am almost 32, have two kids and things aren't bliss, we'll keep it at that.
If I would have lived on my own prior, I would have learned so much more on my own instead of always wondering "what if" the rest of my life.
I am not telling you what to do, just telling you the way it was for me.
2007-01-30 09:19:05
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answered by Jennifer L 6
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Good for you for questioning this before you get married. I married at 19 (Way too young). I went straight from my parents home to my husbands. It was ok for the first few years but eventually, the curiosity made me crazy. I'd wonder about the "what ifs" on a daily basis. We ended up getting a divorce due to many factors, but in 20 years of marriage, I never lost my curiosity.
Listen to your gut. Sounds like it's telling you to take things at a slower pace. If you lose you boyfriend, remember it's easier to lose a boyfriend than to lose a husband. Good luck.
2007-01-30 09:19:02
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answered by katydid 7
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I can definitely identify with your feeling of needing to know that you can make it on your own- having that sense of accomplishment and self, regardless if you want to be single or not.
I lived with a man for 6 years right out of college, and when that relationship ended I was afraid to live on my own. It was scary, but after awhile I felt empowered by having made all my own decisions...even silly things like decorating your first apartment!!
It's important that you have time for yourself - this is the time to do it!
2007-01-30 09:17:03
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answered by 1912 Hudson 4
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Have you gone to college? That is what you will regret. Denying yourself the following:
education
opportunity to earn more $ because of your education
Opportunity to learn things you never would have learned otherwise (in my case I learned to sail, to play ultimate, to mix the perfect margarita, etc)
opportunity to meet and socialize with people from around the world
opportunity to work with cutting edge technology (I got to play on email and the web BEFORE everyone had an email acct. Matter of fact, if I wanted an email address I had to request one at the computer help desk!)
find yourself
Cheer at a big-time college football game
wear team colors and know that you are part of that institution.
2007-01-30 09:18:42
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answered by anon 5
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Let me tell you sweets.... If he is a good man, and treats you good, then there is nothing to consider. Its VERY hard to find a great guy these days...If you have one, HOLD ONTO HIM! Being single and living on your own isnt easy. TV makes it look like it is, but its not. I've been there before. I purchased my own house when I was 20, and my husband didnt move in till I was 23. I had to do everything on my own, and on those nights I would watch a scary movie, I was CONVINCED something was in my house...! It sounds so stupid NOW, but I would NEVER give up a great guy TO LIVE ALONE!
2007-01-30 09:14:42
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answered by Angel Eve 6
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I had a career and my own home and all that before I got married at 25, and I absolutely can't imagine never having experienced any of that. Independence is so important!
2007-01-30 09:42:06
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answered by Anonymous
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