I am in a relationship with a guy that I really enjoy being with/around.. I don't think he feels the same way.. Everytime I come over it ends up being something sexual.. he has much more money than I do.. I am in college, he is currently established.. lives with roomates.. I was the first guy he introduced to them.. he said that means a lot.. I feel like the only time I see him is when he wants me, not when I want him.. What should I do to clear up the problem? I don't want to make him feel any different if he does indeed want to be with me.. I just don't want to get hurt in the end.. sortive think that he is experimenting with me... sure most have been in a similar situation where the relationship was not clear... hope to get some good replys/advice... thanks in advance everyone!
2007-01-30 08:58:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, to begin with, you should discuss your feelings with him. Make sure you use "I" statements. Check-in to see what each of your expectations are.
If you are only being used as a sex partner, that will become quite apparent quickly in the conversation. If he is actually wanting more, but afraid to ask, that should come up pretty quickly too.
It's nearly impossible to have TOO much communication.
Good luck!
2007-01-30 09:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple and you probably already know it but just want some reassurance! Tell him how you feel. You should never be afraid to tell someone that you are in relationship with how you feel. The relationship should be open, honest and beneficial to both people involved. So tell him and if he loves you like you love him his response would be the one you want to hear. You should be told that he is sorry you made him feel like that and that he will make the changes necessary (if possible) to put your mind at ease on this issue. Don't listen to the leave him advice until you talk to him and then make your decision. If it is not possible for him to make the changes that are necessary to put your mind at ease and you think the reason he gives you are valid then bare with him until he can do what he needs to do. If he does not give any good reason or just blows of the question and doesn't answer you then LEAVE HIM AND MOVE ON!!!! GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-30 09:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by qdeezy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a very similair relationship a few years back. Head over heals for the dude but, he treated me much as your is treating you now.
It didn't work out. We broke up. Now i'm glad we broke up because I was blinded and his mental destructive force was strong.
Now, that I am over him I have found the love of my life. Who treats me with love and respect.
I know you Prolly like this dude. but for your own good. Get rid of him. He's only playing you!
2007-01-30 09:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by digitaldancer22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm.. it really is not authentic.. eh will have an interest in you later.. thats if he does have any emotions in the route of you and he wont be searching round at otehr females and thats if his emotions are authentic... i imagine you ought to offer him the area.. supply him time.. be affected man or woman.. enable him lead teh total element.. it really is glaring he's teh one which is scared that he will finally end up devasted again.. so attempt to be pateint and gives you him the time to imagine and sparkling issues out.. and to be particular of what his emotions are for you.. in teh mean time.. attempt to get in the route of him.. attempt to entice him.. attempt to make him sense liek you care etc...
2016-12-03 06:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only discussing your feelings - not facts. Try this - ask him, "Where do you see this relationship going?" and sit back and listen to what he has to say.
2007-01-30 09:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the money out of the equation, that will be your answer!!
2007-01-30 09:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋