Any dominating married women out there?

Question

This is a question for you. Do you need to try and control everything? Do you feel the need to wear the pants in the family? Yes? Well I married someone just like you. However, I like to wear the pants sometimes as well. How do we handle you types? You seem to be the total opposite of what most guys want but I kind of like it. Most guys like it at first and then get real frustrated with your dominating style. I don’t want to be controlled but I do like my wife being dominating sometimes and wearing the pants (she’s only 5’1” and I’m 6’3”). How do we keep you all challenged? She seems to want to fight about things sometimes just to fight? So what keeps you all interested? Seems you’d like someone to control with a little fight mixed in? Am I right?

Answer 1

Honey, is that you?

I was in a mmariage where I dominated the relatishionship because he was a spineless coward. He never stood up for himself, he didn;t have any common sense, he made bad choices and left me to do all the decistions. He just let me do whatever because he knew that I knew better and he didn;t have the enrgy to respond to my never ending demands and protests.

I divorced him because he was a loser and I realized that he needed a loser just like him. He didn't challenge me, inspired me so there was nothing for me to look forward to. He needed to grow a pair and stood up for himself but he just coward up to the corned and sneak around to do what he wanted withopu me finding out.

Now I have a man that keeps me on my toes. We are on the same level and I don't have to "fix him". Is so exahousting to have an uphill battle with someone that just doesn't get it.

If you stand up for yourself, then she will be in love with you. Women don't like to admit it, but is so good to see you man acting manly and powerful and making his point across like a MAN.

Good luck

Answer 2

First of all you should have known this about her before you got married...It sounds like she has a very strong personality...and that whatever you do is wrong...and will continue to be wrong....

Women like her love the control and taking a back seat is very hard to do...sorry to tell you...you just can't put a handle on women like this...

My suggestion is that you try to communicate the best way you can...tell her/suggest that you would like to be in charge for a couple of days and see how that goes....mind you she will find fault in what you do, but just let her know it's your time/days...

Good Luck wear the pants for a while...

Answer 3

I am now widowed but what my husband could never understand was that while I was dominating in our lives outside of the bedroom I was totally SUBMISSIVE in it. He just couldn't understand that I wanted to make my own decisions in my life but be controlled sexually. The only reason I would even consent to this was because I trusted and loved him and because I was so accustomed to making the household decisions, I needed some kind of balance in my life.

He made the mistake of thinking that I wanted to initiate EVERYTHING when this just wasn't true. I waited around years for this guy to come after me, even after TELLING him over and over what I wanted.

I didn't mind being the Dom here and there but I really wanted to be led at times, told how things would be, not always given a choice. I also think he would have been great at being the leader.

In my relationships now I make sure to only give control over to those I trust completely but I do now get to be the submissive girly girl when when I feel like it. I think most women don't much like that stance anymore but I am quite stuck on it. And now that I HAVE to be in charge of the rest of my life, I really want to be led in the romance department.

So, I guess I'm just asking you to consider that maybe you have a closet submissive on your hands. The Dom may be a Sub in disguise.

Answer 4

Some women are more Independent and men might take that as dominant. We're just used to getting things done our way without listening to men telling us what to do and how to do it. I tend to be dominating from time to time with my husband but It's also nice knowing that there is a MAN in the house that sets his foot down and gets his way. I love a challenge and I'll fight for what I want, but once my husband steps in and I hear that stern voice, I tend to back off. From what I heard, men like independent women but they also want/need to feel needed. Try being more aggressive, NOT violent, when you make decisions and when you tell her what you want. I'm not saying hell and start arguments but try to figure out what she responds to. Hope this helped. Good Luck.

Answer 5

I am not totally dominating but I do have the last say in MOST things, not all of them. I have to let him get in a few every now and then to keep him interested. We dont really fight anymore because we have been married for 5 1/2 years. When we do argue, it's usually over that day.

Answer 6

In my relationship, I am the MAN. That doesn't preclude her from making a majority of all the decisions that are made in our household. I just keep my man card and use it the very few times that I have to. If something isn't worth fighting about like where we are going to eat that night or what movie to watch, I let it go. When it comes to major decisions, we discuss it, make a rational decision between the both of us... and if worse comes to worst, the final decision is mine. It's not a fact of HAVING TO WEAR THE PANTS... it's just a fact of knowing that you wear the pants.

Answer 7

I wish my husband would ask me this question!!!! I run the show all the time with everything. He will not ever put his foot down, and yes I like to argue. But, secretly, I wish he would pull rank on me once in awhile, initiate sex, make a decision. Flattery will get you everywhere...also, plant lots of seeds. She will feel like she is pleasing you and that it was all her idea, really you just let her know how its going to be, almost subliminally. Kinda neat, but most women really do want recognition for making their husbands happy men. If you let her dominate, that is your unspoken satisfaction with the job that she does, whatever it may be.

Answer 8

I like your question and have been told that I am domineering.lol Even though I dont really look at myself as wearing the pants in my family. I do have high standards in what I want and dont want.

My best advice to you is to respect your wife, show her you care and love her and know when to pick your fights. If its something you really want, just sit down and talk to her about it, let her know its important to you. She will respect you for speaking up, but do so gently.

I like a man that is willing to work with me, and I bet your wife does too. If theres a real problem, just talk to her about it.. dont start a fight but let her know you want to be a equal but show your love as well. good luck.

Answer 9

thats a toughy-- I am really stubborn and i have a doninant personality but my husband is very passive and goes with the flow-- i pick fights sometimes just to get a rise out of him and thats not right either but dont give her a rise-- just be calm and dont have a reaction to it. my husband stopped giving me reactions and i stopped fighting with him. i dont think I could handle a husband that is like me... its hard when you have similar personalities- especially when it is more of the dominant (you both have to be right all the time).. all I can say is choose your battles. Let her have her way sometimes and other times just say that every once in a while you want to have things your way. she will respect it.

Answer 10

I will answer in order of your questioning :
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I am told I am dominant. I feel I am simply strong and know what I want and am NOT afraid to say it.

I do not need to control everything.

I do not feel the need to wear the pants but for some reason I end up doing so, so things get taken care of.

Handle us will love, care & lots of affectionate attention.

I need no challenging, I am not competing with anyone for my life.

Not me... I want no fighting what so ever... I want things done right (my way) and I want them done NOW. To fight about them would get you a smack upside the head (ha ha)
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All in all, I simply take care of things... sometimes I want my husband to just make a choice for once and then he does. I seem to know what works best in our home as in running the home so I take care of it. People call me dominant like I mentioned before, but I am meerly taking care of business.

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Happy Tuesday !!