Teenage stepbrother doing something stupid...do I narc?

Question

I'm living with my dad during the school year (law school). My 17 year old stepbrother recently got his driver's license. The other night he showed me a video on his cellphone...of his speedometer going up to 80 mph.

I feel obligated to tell his mom that he's driving like a damn loon. I figure I'd rather have him hate me for telling than put on a suit to attend the boy's funeral (along with the funerals of whoever else he wipes out).

My chat with him did nothing, probably because I own a Corvette with a radar detector. Yes, I am wrong on that count. I've also been driving longer than the boy has been alive.

I want to hear from fellow adults as well as new teen drivers. Do I tell, or is there a middle ground?

Answer 1

I'm a parent of a teen driver who has been driving for about a year now. I would DEFINITELY want to know from anyone if she were driving recklessly, and endangering others. Number 1, if she kills herself or someone else, it will definitely negatively affect me and my family. Number 2, if she manages to not kill people, but cause a bad wreck, it will negatively affect our family finances, because her insurance premiums would skyrocket. I think his mom and dad could figure out a way to share your concerns with him without his figuring out where they found out, parents are pretty good at stuff like that. We can be pretty darned sneaky when we have to be, and you have to be with teens. I would definitely recommend telling your father, you're absolutely not protecting him by keeping silent.

Answer 2

There is a middle ground. If he continues, he may well end up in a coffin, but he also wants to look cool to you and his friends. Try making a deal with him. Set an example by losing the radar detector and driving safely yourself. Show him that being cool doesn't have to mean ending up on ice. If he doesn't go for it, then tell his parents. In the end, you could save his life and that's what being a big brothers about.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

What's going to happen if you tell, will they take his car away until he reaches the ripe old age of 18, when he will have learned that driving faster than the limit is bad and wrong.
Surely you remember the day you woke up on your eighteenth birthday and realized how stupid you've been for the last year.
The State sets the laws that govern the age of drivers, it is their responsibility to police the activities of all drivers.
You can tell, it just wont do any more good than the talk you've allready had with him.

Answer 5

Ya know what you are an adult and you told him he was being wrong in driving radical--hey law student--how about showing him some of the penalties for being busted for speeding and the insurance rate hike with every ticket --and that before too long (if he doesn't wrap himself around a pole first) that Dad will pull his license IF the DMV doesn't do it first--
But in loving him as it sounds as tho you do--tell him to slow down or because he isn't listing to you that you will rat him off--my oldest son told my 17 year old to slow down and when he didn't ?? He ratted him out--I was livid--did he hate his brother for telling?? No --he knows he is loved --other wise we wouldn't care at all--so don't fear that--besides in time (even if he is mad) it wont last for life and you will sleep better at night--

Answer 6

I would tell you might be saving his life or someone else.Its people like that That dont think before doing something wrong. If he wrecks that car going that fast and he lives and his passenger does not He will be needing you for court. If he is the type that just dont care what other people say its going to result in something bad eventally Good luck.

Answer 7

Its hard being a hypocrite but a 17 year old driving like a loon is much worse. Tell his mom about it - you might just be saving his life and someone else's.

Answer 8

When teenagers start driving they feel that nothing can hurt them, and i feel that you should mention it, i wouldn't go about it in a "im telling on you" way..just explain to his mom that you are concerned with his safety and that only being 17 he does not have the experience to be driving at such high speeds. He may be mad with you but one day he will understand.

Answer 9

there is always a little girl, or a person with a great life tht gets hit in car accidents. if ths stupidity keeps goping on, u are going to have to live with the guilt tht u killed a little girl, or wrecked a whole family. tell someone right now, before the worse comes.

Answer 10

I think you should tell his mother. You would probably gain alot of respect from her by telling her. She does not have to tell him she knows to enroll him in a drivers safety course. Plus if something doeshappen to him driving you will have a clean conscious.