There is this guy I have been seeing on and off for almost 3 years. Things were great at first, then he said that we cannot get married due to culture things. He left came back found a new woman (after telling me he would only want to be with me when he returned). Later he told me he found someone else to try to forget me. Well, she broke up with him and he came back to me. Later that year he needed to "find" himself and told me not to contact him anymore, I tried my best not to and then didn't. He called me up twice to wish me a merry christmas and happy new year. We connected (kinda (as friends)) again. Then he asked me to marry him in secrect and I couldn't b/c his family would find someone for him and we would have to divorce and I did not want to be divorced the next day. He left again (overseas) and came back (home for 1 month) and says he does not love me b/c i said no and does not want to get married to anyone. I have been calling and he is vague and makes excuses. help.
2007-01-30 08:33:26 · 11 answers · asked by _ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't waste anymore time with this guy. Is that the kind of husband you want. One that can't make decision because he afraid of what is family will say. His family tell what to do and how to raise your children. Heck no find someone who is stable and secure. This guy isn't really for marriage, much less relationship and keeping secret forget that. Dump his confuse a**.
2007-01-30 08:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants the best of both worlds, having fun with other women and the respect of his family while having you hanging on forever in the hope that he will change and come back to you. The sad news is that he will not change. His behavior is the same as a child of two who wants everything his way. You need to move on to a mature, loving relationship that can nurture you with someone who respects you.
2007-01-30 08:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point this man in the farthest direction from you. Let him go and leave him out of your life and let him know you don't want to have anything else to do with him. this is a relationship doomed to failure that will cause you nothing but heartache. I know it sounds harsh but reality often is and the reality is this man is just bound to never do or be anything good where you are concerned
2007-01-30 08:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so he basically told you he is done with the idea of marriage, so why do you want to get in touch with him again? Is it because you enjoy riding on his roller coaster?
Do you feel guilty because he makes it sound like you are to blame that he doesn't want to get married to anyone?
You could be better off with a man who knows what he wants, & doesn't lay a guilt trip on you, when he doesn't get his way with you.
2007-01-30 08:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I hate to say it but I think he's taking advantage of you and does not know what he wants. He thinks he can leave whenever and play mind games and you'll always take him back when he wants you. You should'nt have to put with that you deserve better. Give him a taste of his own medicine as hard as it may be Trust me I know Good luck
2007-01-30 08:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by cee_jae22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is way to confusing and i cant even imagine how confused you are! i dont like the sound of him i think you should move on he dosent sound worth it. Hes just opening up the same wounds again and again.
2007-01-30 08:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by chelzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you want us to say. This is not the man for you move on!
Things will never get any better if you don't forget him and move on with your life.
2007-01-30 08:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, ditch this moron and move on with your life. He's not worth your time and heartache! Good luck!
2007-01-30 08:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by philyra2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but this doesn´t sound promising at all, I´d try to forget about him..it seems like he needs to grow up...
2007-01-30 08:39:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear
i think u still love hem until now.so give your self another chance
"zakariya zawal from syria"
2007-01-30 09:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋