Girlfriend & i lost our virginity to each other last week,been dating a while. She said it was really painful, and isn't that keen to try again. I didn't know what I was doing really, just don't know what happens next. She says she wants to have another go next week, but isnt too sure. how do i make sure it goes ok, and is it always THAT painful!!!!!!!! She said it was awful, no pleasure, just pain!!!!!
2007-01-30 08:31:56 · 10 answers · asked by ralf_ny65rj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When you ask most people "How was your first experience" they usually say it was bad, awkward, short etc. Also, guys hit their sexual peak about 10 years before girls do, so it is very likely that you enjoyed it more than she did.
I am female :-) My first time was weird and yes, there was no pleasure. If it had hurt, that would be even worse. Depending on her age, size and your size, would say how much it may hurt.
I don't want to get too graphic, but just remember to "warm up" before hand, don't rush into it and don't go fast. Most of all, don't push her into having sex again. Sex is a very mental thing for a female, and it will hurt and be unpleasurable if she isn't into it or is just doing it to please you.
2007-01-30 08:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by adian919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time is really painful. There was probably blood as well. The amount of pain and for how long really depends on your size and her size. All women and men are different. In addition all hymens(skin across a womans vagina that rips upon first intercourse) are different. The most important thing to know is to take your time before penetration. Sex is all about the expierience not just the penetration. It's new to you both. As you get to know one another on the more intimate level than you had before, you will be more relaxed going into any sexual encounter with each other. Lubrication is an option but if you have alot of foreplay beforehand it shouldn't be necessary. Mind you condoms can affect lubrication so it is a good idea to have KY on hand. I really do hope you are using condoms and know how to put them on properly. I highly recommend books to help you gain more info. Either rented from library or buy they are well worth the embarrassment and/or price. There are clinics that you can goto for advice ( eg: birth control clinics) and they are trained to give you an honest, informative and unbiased answer to your questions. Good luck.
2007-01-30 09:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by berryrealgal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you are not married you should refrain from having sex. Think of the things that can happen if something goes wrong. On the other hand....it does hurt (as a woman) the first time because the womans body has to open to the size of your ehemmm. And there is a piece of skin over our ummm on the inside and it tears the first time. She should be fine and it should not hurt (if you two were never with anyone else) otherwise it would be an STD, but I think you are fine. Honestly, I know you may love her and she loves you, but is it worth it to have a child right now? Are you prepared to be a father and her a mother? Only concerned because I care for our young people.
2007-01-30 08:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by _ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to do some research. Yes it hurt because she was a virgin. After a few more times, she will get use to it and won't notice pain. If she waits a long time to have sex again (since she was a virgin), she may feel pain again. Just make sure that you both do research that way you'll understand it. Be safe!
2007-01-30 08:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by taiyessweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sweet to her, if she hurts again, stop. Use lube ( KY Jelly, or Astroglide). You can get it as Wal-Mart. She may want to talk to a doctor or other medical professional just to put her mind at ease. The level of pain is different for all women, but it gets better with practice.
2007-01-30 08:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you to watch XXX movies so you can develop a skill or flow. Encourage her to get in touch with herself and you do the same. How old are you anyway? You both just need to experience it! If you fall of a bike you get back on and try again.
2007-01-30 08:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by Tricee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a girl loses her Virginity the first time it will hurt but after that it won't hurt, so its alright to do it again.
2007-01-30 08:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by Cori S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not going to be nearly as painful. Go to Barnes and Noble and look in the self help section so you learn how to do it right-SERIOUSLY-there are good books out there to teach you things you need to know. i am not talking porn either.
2007-01-30 08:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try using a lubricant it will make it go in easier so it shouldnt b so painful. and no its not alwasy that painfull it gets better with time
2007-01-30 08:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by blossom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to read a book......... Talk with sex ed teacher........... Please practice safe sex............... young girls/women sometimes do not get their first orgasm until they are in their 30-40s. you both need to explore each others bodies and find out what drives her wild. try FOREPLAY if you do not know read about this together.
2007-01-30 08:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋