Say you've found the perfect man, but the only catch is he is in prison. What would you do?
2007-01-30 08:16:21 · 31 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only you can decide what is right for you. I think that while you may love him and he may be a perfect man for you, there is no rush to marry. Wait until he comes home. If it's still like that when he's home to you, then marry him
2007-02-01 14:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Kiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, absolutely not, no way, no how! I used to date a "jail bird" in my late teens early 20's and while I think that everyone deserves a fair chance, I would not settle for somebody that was in prison. The reason is not because he is a criminal, but because most time men in prison are looking for desperate and vulnerable women. Because they are on "lock down" they expect you to adhere to the same rules that they have to. They want you in at a certain time and they want you to be home when they call collect, etc. There is really no incentive for a woman to date a man in prison. He is looking for somebody that he can call his own. Somebody that can write letters, put money on his books and come visit. While he is sitting in prison, you are back at home being deprived of the love and companionship that you need. Nine times out of then he wants you to wait for him (if you know what I mean) until he comes home. That's BS.
The truth of the matter is that most of the time those men are bored and looking for something to do to kill time. When they have been locked up for long periods of time, which even a year is a long time to be out of touch with society, they are not going to be ready to settle down when they get out of prison. They are going to be trying to get with every woman that crosses their path. You will be their crutch to lean on though. They'll use your home for a place to get paroled to so they can have a good address to give their P.O. They'll have free food and a place to stay. It will be harder for a felon or somebody in prison to get a job. Although it is very possible, it is hard and a lot of them will start making the excuse that nobody wants to hire them because of their background. You will find yourself feeling like you are taking care of a child.
Bottom line - find you a single man that is free. You'll be a lot happier. If he's changed like he said he has and if he is such a perfect man, then let him look you up after he gets out of prison and gets on his feet. Then he will have something to bring to the relationship. Good Luck!
2007-01-30 11:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is to redefine what "perfect" means for me. You know, set my standards a little bit higher. If the perfect man for you is one who is in prison, then you almost certainly have very low self-esteem. You're thinking that this is the best you deserve. It would be a good idea for you to work on accomplishing some things in your life, educationally and career-wise, to give yourself a higher sense of self-worth.
2007-01-30 08:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I worked in the prison system for 8 years. Relationships usually do not stand the test of time. Personally I believe you should focus your energy in a different direction.
Mark
2007-01-30 08:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mark C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is the perfect man he would not be in prison-Period end of discussion
2007-01-30 08:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like the perferct guy to me if you mean in prison without chance of parole. He can't make a mess of the house, get upset if you didn't cook dinner. He won't snore in bed or leave dirty clothes around the house. Yeah it sounds like you found Mr. Right. Good luck with that!
2007-01-30 09:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by ireallydoknowitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My perfect man would not be in prison.
2007-01-30 08:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way. Why would you want to do that to yourself? Check out the statistics on prisoners and reoffenses. Unless he's in federal prison for money crimes and has a stash of cash somewhere.....
2007-01-30 08:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by bamagrits84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone who ended up in jail isn't someone who I'd consider to be "perfect." Usually relationships with inmates end when they are released.. If you're "lucky" enough to have him stay, do you want to live with a thief/rapist/assaulter/murderer, etc? Chances are he's not a good person.
Look outside the prison.
2007-01-30 08:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by •√¡rgő• 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would NEVER find the perfect man in prison PERIOD !!!
2007-01-30 10:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋