Hi there ! My friend is a very shy person and gets humilated if says anything.This is because the pitch of her voice is very low.Though, she shouts all the time when she's between friends.I just want to help her and tell her a few tricks how to make people shut their mouths when they are humilating you infront of anyone .Although , I can fight back for her but she somehow stops me.People usually make fun of her calling her names or finding faults even if they are not.So, all I ask is for some smart, witty replies that can truly help. Please, it's for my best friend.Thank you.
2007-01-30 08:15:42 · 4 answers · asked by Tina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell your friend to memorize this and use it as a mantra......
"You can tell more about a person from what they say about others than from what others say about them!"
And that is the God honest truth!!!!
I was so incredibly shy as a young girl and even into my teens. It had a terrible effect on my self esteem and self image, and those poor souls out there that find nothing better to do with their time than humiliate others are TRULY the ones with low self esteem. They are humiliating your friend because it makes themselves feel better, more important or worthy. They should be pitied! Have your friend read that quote and then really think about it....and hey, use it yourself. That saying is like a lie detector or truth serum. If you really want to know what kind of a person someone is listen to what they are saying and how they are saying it. It was my dad that taught me that saying and it CHANGED MY LIFE!
Your friend is very lucky to have a best friend in you and I admire you for defending her and looking for some ways to help her through this tough time. Keep the faith and remember......
"You can tell more about a person from what they say about others than from what others say about them!" Best wishes to you both!
2007-01-30 08:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by MaHaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would most likely be a self confidence personality issue. Although unexplained we tend to notice peoples faults more if they are self conscious about it, and hence increasing the chances of that person being picked on. A confident person with faults, say fat for example, should not focus on their condition, but should behave as though they were a beautiful slender princess, good moods rub off on others and make them less likely to notice the faults. Call the right attitude the 'great equalizer' I guess! Another mistake would be over compensating for faults. Using fat as another example, sometimes they will expose too much breast or ankle and try to correct the fault by flaunting other features. I hope you understand! Bye.
2007-01-30 16:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. A Elashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First your friend needs to build self confident. If she has a soft voice then maybe she should practice talking louder so people won't make fun of her. She can put up her hand and say "talk to the hand the ears aren't listening'. Oh give them the bird. But until she starts talking a little louder she going to have this problem.
2007-01-30 16:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yea, its call shut the f*** up.
2007-01-30 16:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by Diamondbch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋