Do I try again with my ex girlfriend?

Question

Ok, here's a tough one. My first love was this girl, i am a girl too and she was straight at the time and she tried to run away from it, eventually she met some guy and married him way to fast thinking it would get rid of the feelings she had for me, after a couple years I met another girl, but still had feelings for my first. It's now been two years and my current girlfriend just left me, I miss her, but my first shows up and now says she is admitting that she is gay and accepting it and now wants to be with me. I have some feelings for her but not like before and I still am in love with the girl who just left me. Do I try again with my first love and see if my feelings grow again or do you think they will not grow? Is it too late? I think partly I am afraid of her running away and hurting me again, she was seeing me during her marriage now and then, but whenever she wanted which screwed me up too. Now that she's willing I'm a little scared. What do I do? Please help!!!

Answer 1

Well, coming from someone who had try to run away from being gay( not accepting it at first) but thank goodness I never married anyone and I know for a fact that I always been gay and am ok w/ it now. I see where your coming from that you are not sure of giving this person another chance because of what they done the 1st time. Maybe just hang out as friends first and see where it leads to, especially if you are still in love w/ that other girl (I remember you telling me about her, last time) that way if the other girl changes her mind you aren't deeply involved w/ someone else because you are friends. Things always take time and obviously, time is on your side so I would do that, keep it as friends and see how your feelings are toward her vice versa.

Answer 2

Your right, this is a tuff one.

I think what I would do is only hang out with her as a friend for now. Seeing as you still have feelings for your current ex. My boyfriend and I broke up 2 weeks ago to figure out some problems and I was torn apart. Now we have been working on things and realizing alot of others too. We're not back together and I couldn't be more in love with him. During the break up my other ex got ahold of me telling me how much he loved me and wanted me to come back to him. I couldn't. I kept telling myself "Self - he is your ex for a reason, don't go through all that pain again."

Now - I'm as happy as a pig in sh**.

So I say.... PLay the field. Maybe you'll get back together with the one you truely love.

Just be friends with Both!