i told her to loose some weight. but she misunderstood me...which is the best way to tell it to her, so that she can understand it easily and start loosing weight...serious answers please
2007-01-30 07:55:38 · 39 answers · asked by jackson 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Just ditch her and get a skinny hotty, marriage is overrated.
2007-01-30 08:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by JMBC 2 · 2⤊ 7⤋
Well for 1 u should love her no matter how she looks.How would u feel if u where in an accident and your face got deranged and she left u cuz no surgery could help it look better.If u truly feel that the weight is a health problem then u could have talked about your CONCERN about it with her n not tell her what to do.If her gaining weight bothers u that much then u obviously don't love her or it wouldn't matter what she looked like.Women r sensitive when it comes to there appearence especially weight.Honestly if it's a concern then tell her u r concern about her health n be willing to stick by her and do it with her even if u don't need to lose weight u need to do it with her .It means healthy food in the house for both n no take out or treats can b bought n brought home by u.This is what a relationship is all about sticking together n helping each other n making each other happy in every way n showing as well as telling how much u love each other.U never know if this is a health problem n even medications,changes in your life like depression among other things can b the cause of the weight gain.Just b as supportive as possible n apoligize for how u told her about her weight.She has to want to loose the weight for it to be done n she will need your mental n emotional support so if your willing to b her husband then do your job as her other half and help her not yourself cuz it's not about what u want it's about her.
2007-01-30 08:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uuummm this is a tough one and me and my guy friends actually talked about this before. There is really no way for you to tell her without offending her. I suggest that may be you come up with an activity that you guys can do together like walking everyday or running or rollerblading. Anything that would give her a good cardio but dont make it sound like she needs it. Make is sound like you want to spend more time with her outdoors or something.
Also watch her diet, not sure if you guys live together and who goes grocery shopping. Try and buy healthier food in the house so she doesnt eat all that junk that goes right to her *ss and belly! May be make her salad for lunches to take to work or what not.
This is a tough one, I feel bad for you. Its a lose lose situation if you tell her. Orr may be you can just change your mentality to loving her for how she is and will become etc. My best friend always "more meat, more to love!" LOL
2007-01-30 08:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Pudge_Monsta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad. This must be hard on you. First of all, do not take her to fast food restaurants, but instead take her to a health food restaurant, or prepare a healthy meal yourself. Next, take her grocery shopping for healthy snacks and other food. Do not take snacks away from her and throw it in the garbage, since this will turn her off. It would be a great option to give her a weight loss program certificate, where she can exercise and lose weight naturally. You could also go with her here, these places are not only for losing weight, but also for remaining active and healthy. If you really love her, offer her a gift if she has lost a certain amount of pounds. She will love this. I know so, since I am a girl myself. Do not get mad at her when she eats an unhealthy or fattening snack, but just offer her something else instead. Have a happy valentines!!
2007-01-30 08:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Dianne T 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Okay.....is lying ever the "right" thing to do with those of you who are trying to "sugar coat" things by saying, "Tell her you are concerned about her health". If she has gained weight in the manner that you say she has then something has changed in her habits in the last 6 months. Maybe you two are eating out more and spending more time cuddling of the couch.
I think that you should approach it delicately and "both" of you should cook and eat healthier and get some exercise......if you truly love her and want to spend your live with her. Marriage is a life decision along with eating healthy and exercising.
or..
If you are an "******" or very shallow and are only concerned with how she looks....to stroke your eagle...then just break up with her. If she is having a difficult time in her life right now, its probably best to get rid of the "bad seeds" in her life now!
2007-01-30 08:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I suppose the best thing to do is first analyse what type of person she is and how she would take it.. None of us know her personality, so you can make the best judgement. Some people can take constructive critisism well, but if she's not one of them, perhaps get involved in her change of lifestyle as well - plan more exercise and trips to the gym together, take her out to dinner to a healthy vegetarian restaurant instead of somewheres serving.. "heavier food", and just explain to her that perhaps you want to cut down on the junk food or whatever might be making her gain weight a little. If all else fails, tell her you could be concerned about her health.. but don't forget to mention she looks beautiful and that you love her, no matter how she looks! :)
2007-01-30 08:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If it's something that really bothers you and she's not willing to try to lose weight then maybe you should reconsider being with her. I know that sounds shallow but, I don't know you so I don't really know how big of a problem it's for you. You could always start working out together at a gym.
2007-01-30 08:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by nicoledave44039 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is what you need to tell her:
"I will not love you if you are not physically attractive to me, and right now I do not find you physically attractive because you have gained weight."
I don't think she misunderstood you at all. When you fell in love with her, she looked a certain way that you liked and you want her to stay that way. Please understand that even if she loses the weight now, her body will change eventually no matter how hard she works to prevent this.
2007-01-30 08:04:33 · answer #8 · answered by MedGeek 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
There is no easy way to tell a woman she needs to lose weight. Perhaps you should try to find the reason(s) for the weight gain. If you try to address the underlying cause, weight loss may very well follow. It could be stress, the relationship, change in lifestyle. Fix the problem, eliminate the symptoms.... maybe.
In the meantime, make sure she knows that your love for her is unwavering.
2007-01-30 08:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Lay it all on you.
Ask her if she wants to join a gym together and tell her that you want to be really fit for the wedding.
This way you are not telling her that she needs to lose the weight but that YOU want to look better and YOU need HER support.
It is just an easy way to help her lose the weight without hurting her feelings.
2007-01-30 08:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by cmssko 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Yes, you can tell her you're concerned with her health,etc. But are you seriously considering not marrying her if she doesn't get thin? If so, you should examine what love is and whether you really love HER - who she is or not. I understand the importance of being healthy, but being skinny is not necessarily an indicator of health, and your use of the word "fatty" makes me think that your concerns are more superficial than health related. Maybe you're slim when it comes to truly loving another person for who they are.
2007-01-30 08:01:34 · answer #11 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋