i have a 3 month old that i give all my atteintio to after work and my man gets mad b/c i dont give him none and i also feel so tired to make love to him. im just so worn out that i just want to go asleep right after i put our baby to sleep. WHAT CAN I DO HELP!
2007-01-30 07:53:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You should just hire a hot nanny, everything will fall into place once you do. Good Luck!
2007-01-30 07:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
As tired as you may be, sometimes just starting some intimacy will make you get "in the mood." You may not feel it right away, but once you get into it, like kissing or touching, you have to work your way into it. If you get used to not having that, you might stop wanting it altogether. I know you're tired, but if you have desire and want to keep your man happy (although he should know your baby and rest come first) at least put a little effort into it. Even if it is only maybe once a week at first. Good luck.
2007-01-30 15:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by ojibwechik 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is an easy one for me because I have a 6 month old and I basically try to start something right after I get the little one to sleep.
Or you can find a close friend or family member that you feel comfortable with watching your little one at THEIR house and plan a night for just the two of you at your house so you can have some couple time.
2007-01-30 15:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by blondie21_97504 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL! Trust me girl. I know you dont want to. Not necissarily dont want to but i know its hard to. I have an idea, try to get him to do what you do for an ahour or so. No help from you what so ever. After he does he should realize its not easy taking care of a newborn and it is hard work. Let him know after he comes to you tired and aggitated from taking care of the baby, that you do it all day and he did in for one hour. If that doesnt work, try just once to get into bed with him and do your thing. Act like you really enjoy it, yet are tired. He should get the picture and take it alittle bit more easy on you. If not he needs to grow up and look at the picture just like my husband did. Hang in there girl, youll be ok.
2007-01-30 16:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Heather A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Next time he gets mad, turn on the shower for him and tell him to become familiar with Rosy Palm & her 5 sisters.
You have a 3 month old! Where does he think the energy (or desire, for that matter) is going to come from? Worse comes to worse, get someone to watch the baby, go out to dinner and then have at it.
2007-01-30 19:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by edkolover 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can always take off for a weekend and let some one else take care of the baby. You can go on a trip to someplace romantic and you can give your man something special. I'm sure someone will want to take care of a cute three month yr old baby. Have fun keep it as a vacation!!!
2007-01-30 15:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask your husband to just be patient with you . It takes time to get back into the swing of things. Maybe if he helped out more that would free up some of your time so you can take a nap. Also, exercise, like walking the baby in the stroller may help to boost your energy.
2007-01-30 15:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by truly_insightful 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yup I have the same problem and so do most other mothers of small children. Understandably you are tired and understandably he is horny. You have to compromise. Once or twice a week get the energy up to have sex with him and the other nights tell him to have some sympathy!
2007-01-30 15:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe see how you feel in the mornings. Let him know how exhausted you are. Tomorrow morning when you wake if he isn't awake yet. Wake him up with a kiss and some loving. I learned that I have more energy in the morning. I have 3 kids so i know what you are going thru.
2007-01-30 15:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by julieg_68 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get him to take over the baby as soon as he comes home to give you a break. If he's not helping out, he doesn't deserve any.
And 3 months is awfully soon, anyway.
Maybe you need a new man?
2007-01-30 15:57:49 · answer #10 · answered by Dave 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask your man to help out with the baby. He will also be equally tired as you are and will not demand much. If this does not work, buy him a video game and let him go play with it and not bother you. :)
2007-01-30 15:57:11 · answer #11 · answered by ggs 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋