I have been married going on three years but separated for one year. My husband cheated on my several times while we was together with friends and co-workers (he even father two children but the woment lost them). I got tired of the crying and different women calling my house. I got tired of the wondering where he is and who he is with so I left him. I found comfront in a friend of mine and ended up creating a baby with him (she is due is 10 weeks). My husband claims he still loves me and that he has change and that he wants me back. What should I do???
2007-01-30 07:25:54 · 12 answers · asked by karameldiamond 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounded like you felt abandoned and betrayed when your husband cheated on you and you left to take care of yourself. I understand you found comfort with another man and got pregnant, but he seems to be out of the picture, and again you seem to have been abandoned.
Now your husband is coming back to you with with promises of a change in character. What to do? Healthy would be for you to continue to take care of yourwelf and the new baby that's coming. Focusing on self care and the care of your child are the greatest priority. Starting a new romantic relationship with a person that has repeatedly proven himself to be unfaithful is a crazy making situation.
I won't tell you what to do. You get to decide. Perhaps you need to go back with him to do some more market research. Other people may fail you, but you never have to feel abandoned. You have yourself, and you need never abandon yourself for anyone. Love and care for yourself and the life within.
2007-01-30 08:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce. You and husband will probably have trust issues. Even though he may not voice it, the new baby will be a problem. Just the fact that you all were legally married, you are having another man's baby. So, I suggest that you all split ways, be friends and move on with your life.
2007-01-30 07:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by stergre1975 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 07:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by season 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would do none of your options. I mean; I would neither go back to my ex nor stay with someone who got you pregnant. It's understandable how much you've suffered in this life, but you need to give dignity and self-respect to yourself, as a woman. Don't go back to someone who hurt you so much. Remember that a man who never makes you cry is the one who deserves them.
2007-01-30 15:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by YinYin^_^~!！！！ 无条件为你。。。他还是不懂！！！ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from your husband thats for sure. Make the divorce final and walk away clean. You don't want your daughter to see that behavior growing up. Besides it sounds to me like you have already given him to many chances to change! Congrats on your baby girl, I'm sure she will be beautiful and healthy. Take care of your self!!
2007-01-30 07:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by Tamra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, you may needs ome time after the abby to make the rational decision, however for now, stay away from him, focus on the beautiful bundle of joy that will soon be all consuming to you. One look at that tiny face and you will see all the answers you need.
2007-01-30 07:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lovely Lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like trying to use scotch tape to hold a pile of turds together. You will need so much to keep it from falling apart, and even if it does hold together, it will still stink.
I think you guys should get away from each other, expect perhaps to attend a class on birth control together.
2007-01-30 07:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay away, just as you've done. You have a child on the way, and this child doesn't need the kind of stepfather that treats her mother like this. Don't expose your daughter to him. Start over.
2007-01-30 07:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Tooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A child would probably complicate further the problems you had before, especially since it's not his child. I'd say stay away.
2007-01-30 08:16:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this deserves much thought AND time, for ALL concerned. Do NOT make any decisions in your current physical/mental condition. Not even once you have your baby.
Actions speak so much louder than words. PLEASE do NOT easily forget past actions. Best wishes, and congratulations....
2007-01-30 07:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋