my wife cheated and im dieing of a broken heart how do i stop the pain
2007-01-30 07:24:10 · 15 answers · asked by demorider2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
only time will tell. Nobody really can tell you how long you will stop hurting from a broken heart because only you know you the best. Time is the only way you will heal because with time you will be able to learn, grow, forgive and move on. Its the only way you will figure out how to deal with this thing at your own pace.
Best of wishes kesha
2007-01-30 07:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 04:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't and you need to remember that pain for many reasons.The first being,so you don't make the same choices in mates again.Then the pain should keep you from ever giving it back to someone else.The pain is bad when you see under the false images of those you thought were real.It's not your fault or anything you have or haven't done for there is no reason for betrayal.When someone betrays you they no longer look the same to you so it's difficult to love the stranger that's before you,even though you are still hanging onto the image of what you thought they were.It's like a death in your life because that person will never come back to you as they were.I hate to sound like a hater ,but you will never feel the same and that's not your fault.Even if your partner says you weren't giving them what they needed,only a coward and a person of very low character would cheat rather than tell you it's over.Hope you can handle your life and get on to your new one.There are many new roads and journeys for you and she will have to deal with the Karma of her works one day.
2007-01-30 07:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
(((hugs))) You may find yourself asking questions for a long time. But as time passes, you'll find yourself feeling more secure and confident about your relationship.
Trust only takes a moment to break, but much, much longer to rebuild. At first it may feel that your relationship will never recover, but with hard work and patience it can survive. An affair always signals a turning point in a relationship - but it doesn't have to signal the end.
Let yourself go through all the emotions. When the shock wears off, you may be left with feelings of anger, sadness and confusion.
Here's some additional help from Dr. Phil;
"Healing A Broken Heart"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/18
"Moving forward After Infidelity"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/16
2007-01-30 11:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't die...we do live and gradually it starts to fade and one morning you'll get up and see the sun shining and realize you can go on from here. It doesn't happen overnight, there is some that understand the pain and humiliation your going through while others just want you to shut up about it and get over it. You deal with it the best you can, you'll learn who to talk to and people to stay away from. Me, I had 6 months until I got my self esteem back, another 6 months to convince people (males as well as females) that I wasn't available for their lust or their husbands/BF. A year of trying to drown my sorrows in a bottle of false courage. After all was said and done, I am happily engaged to a wonderful man for 4 years now, we have the trust and honesty in our relationship that was missing from both of our previous relationships.
2007-01-30 07:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't babe you have to live through it. Stay busy. Eat well. Do something for your self. You will learn to love and trust again. If y'all are still together go get some counseling, it is possible to have a relationship after this but it won't be easy. So sorry that happened to you. Its not your fault so don't go trying to fix yourself. It was her bad mistake. I'd say if you guys have kids work it out for them but if there are no kids consider moving on.
2007-01-30 07:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by Sunday P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your lucky your wife will do her best to earn your trust back and you can actiually come out of this much stronger as a couple. Unfortunately it's true...it takes time to heal that pain. Keep your chin up and things will work out.
2007-01-30 07:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy Pants 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your mind off it for as long as it takes for the pain to die down, and then you'll be able to think about it without feeling as badly.
(I don't understand "broken hearts" when it comes to relationships. I don't understand why you wouldn't just be disgusted and angry.)
2007-01-30 07:34:45 · answer #8 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pray and ask god to take away your hurt, i understand how you feel. i cheated on my husband when we first got married, with my ex husband. it hurt him soo bad, it took me along time to regain his trust. weve been married now for 13 yrs and ive never ever hurt him like that again. he trust me now, but for years he was so insecure of everything i did. if you dont forgive and stay together then trust that god has something better for you, and you will forget the pain your feeling now.
2007-01-30 07:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by pkuchick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Turn your life over to God and put him first. He will help heal you of your pain. Your wife has been blinded by Satan and will go to hell for what she has done. You need to pray for your wife, so that she will repent and turn her life over to the Lord.
For wonderful marriage advice, watch the on-line shows on www.marriagetoday.org
To stand with other people standing for their marriages with God, go to https://rejoiceministries.org/devotion.php
2007-01-30 07:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋