like being the center of attention its hard for me i always wonder how i look or how stupid and obnoxious id be but to act u need to do that....i guess
2007-01-30 07:08:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Music
Home girl, just speak what ever crosses your mind.
2007-01-30 07:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by nike300 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Most of the time I have the exact same problem. What I find to get out of my "shy box", is to just open up to people. I always wonder if I would look stupid too, but by not talking at all people think you may be snotty. I'm not saying you are snotty, I'm just saying I've been in this situation before. Don't think about what people are going to think of you. Their opinion doesn't matter. The opinions that matter are the ones of those who are closest to you. Start out by maybe asking a question to some random person about something you don't know that answer to. Little steps like this can help make you more confindent with yourself, and may lead to big changes in the end. Good luck!
2007-01-30 07:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by Frogger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way until November, then I met some great ladies who are helping with my self esteem issues. It may sound stupid but if you know anyone who is a Mary Kay consultant then get in touch with them, you do not have to sign up if you don't want to but I did and it has had a huge impact on how I see myself. How many times do you hear how great you are? I hear it every day by e-mail, phone or when I see another consultant. Its all about praise and recognition. If you spent most of your life being put down and developed low self esteem as I did then MK May be an option for you. I can talk to complete strangers now and not even think twice about it. This is because I have realized that the people I am talking to are more concerned with what I may be thinking about them then they are about what my hair or makeup looks like at the time! Think of it this way, everyone you meet is more likely thinking about the complete opposite of what you think they are thinking! Sounds twisted but its true! You think they are thinking about your bad hair day and they are actually thinking that you are thinking the same thing about them. Hmmm... why worry what others are thinking of, they don't have any influence over you as long as you don't let them, its all in the mind!
2007-01-30 07:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by Heather P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you must do is stop being afraid of people. Have always on mind that you're a special human being and let yourslef loose when you find someone who's interested talking to you.
Feel free speaking the things you like or dislike. Forget about thinking you're stupid or act obnoxious because the only thing that's happening here is just that you need to break the ice.
Good luck!
2007-01-30 07:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by Marcos Sánchez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in your same situation. I am shy and I hate it. I don't want to be the center of attention...but i'd sure like to talk more. Best thing to do is to just get out there and get involved...I joined rowing team just to meet new people and it's going alright. I wish I had a better answer for ya tho...I'm still trying to figure it out. good luck
2007-01-30 07:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by rigby88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be very shy too, until I took up theater. It really opened me up to discover new things about myself. I say take some acting or maybe even some singing classes, that will help a lot.
2007-01-30 07:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Keep in mind that you have always something sensible to say.
2. Have confidence in yourself. It is just a matter of self confidence.
3. We are all equal
4. Quit thinking that you look stupid. We all feel insecure in some points in our life.
5. Learn also how to listen.
That's it. :)
2007-01-30 07:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by Princess Shai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being shy, you have to be who you are. You will grow to be more outgoing in time. Don't rush evolution, you have to let life go at it's pace. I am sure you are a smart and personable young lady, there is no need to feel obligated to be talkative. This is my opinion! TTYL!
2007-01-30 07:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by krgaus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you posted this in the "music" category I'm going to suggest a singing class. It can build confidence, etc. to sing with others and see them struggle to get it right, just like you are.
2007-01-30 07:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by Murgatroyd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may grow out of it like i did! I used to be very shy as a kid... Now I'm very outgoing!
2007-01-30 07:12:32 · answer #10 · answered by E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋