I think I'm in love with another woman, and I don't know what to do. Help?

Question

When I was in high school I thought I might be a lesbian because I had crushes on other girls in my class. I grew out of that, though, and had man fulfilling relationships with men. Now, at 28, I've fallen for another woman. I've only known her for a few weeks, but we've gotten really close really fast. She's a lesbian, but I don't know if she likes me like that. This is all new to me, and I don't really know what to do. As far as she knows, I'm straight...and I really thought I was! But now, I'm not so sure. If I were to start a relationship with her, it would completely turn my life upside down. But I think she may be worth it. How should I proceed???

Thanks for your answers so far. I should say that this isn't just a sexual attraction. I do think she may be soulmate potential. We have so much in common, and our friendship is really intense. I can see myself in a fulfilling relationship with her, and the thought of that doesn't really scare me. What makes me uneasy is all the soul searching I know I need to do, and possibly re-define who I thought I was. And I don't want my family & friends to think I've been lying to them all these years, either. I'm just discovering who I possibly have always been.

Answer 1

I think that you should go with your gut feeling on this one. If you are attracted to her and everything she is then so be it. I dont think people will resent you for being gay, they may not understand why it took you so long to realize it. But for some it takes a lifetime to find out who you are truly meant to be. Be true to yourself and everyone else....then and only then will everything fall into place. Good luck in the future!

Answer 2

First of all, you need to understand that you are sexually attracted to this woman. You admit to having fulfilling relationships with men. You are simply lusting after this woman. We need to make a choice if we should mix our fantasies with our realities. It is truely wrong and immoral, but it's completely your choice. GOD gave you free will and the knowledge to know the difference between right and wrong. Whatever choice you make, it's totally your own decision. It's your soul. Thank you.

Answer 3

Continue getting to know her, especially since you mentioned she's possibly your soulmate. If you two are right for each other, you'll be able to communicate your feelings to her when the timing is comfortable for you.

Good luck! :)

Answer 4

How romantic! Unfortunately, a lot of people who are homosexuals don't like dating bi-sexuals (as you may be) and people who want to "experiment" (as you would be if you did anything with her.)

Be sincere in your affections. Go on a date and do the things that you would do with a guy....and the things you wouldn't do with a guy. Be openminded and do your best not to hurt anybody.

Answer 5

Proceed with caution...She might have the same feelings for you and don't know how to come out with them. Maybe if you opened up with her and told her your true feelings, you might be surprised and glad by the outcome!!!!! GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

Sounds like you're bi. Go ahead and try it.

here's a few to make you smile...

Girlfriends are like guns, keep one around long enough and your going to want to shoot it.

I dated this girl for two years -- and then the nagging starts: "I wanna know your name..."

The last fight was my fault. My girlfriend asked, "What's on the TV?" and I said, "Dust!"

Answer 7

let it be a "knowing each other" phase first. dont jump into a close
relationship with her. know her first

Answer 8

Try it out & see if that's what you've always wanted.