How do you know when it is over?

Question

I know it is a very general question, but how do you know when your marriage is over and it is time to just part ways? I feel like I have done all I could do to make her happy and to put her first, but it seems like she always has some sort of gripe or complaint on how I should improve and change to make her happy.

Forgot this: We have had a very rough two years..nothing but arguing. However, it seems that I do things her way, there is much more peace. Is that fair?

Answer 1

It sounds as though your marriage was over before it got started. A marriage or relationships is a two way street. Not a ONE Way street. Both people have to think about what makes each other happy and content. Your wife is a self centered person who only cares about what she wants. No wonder you always fight, it's her way or no way. Did she ever think that you might have needs as well? Or did she ever give it a thought, no! People like her will never be happy no matter who there with. She needs counselling or to be alone. Move on and find yourself someone who cares about your needs and happiness. It's all about her and that will never change. Cocoa

Answer 2

Only you can know the answer to your question. Everyone has their limits. Question is have you reached yours? Usually when you feel you've tried everything and nothing has worked, your pretty close to the end.
Have you tried communicating with her about how she makes you feel? I know men don't like the feeling that they don't measure up and some men feel this way when a woman complains. You should really open up and tell her how she makes you feel. If she doesn't make an effort to change, then she is disregarding your feelings. Do you want to be with her if she only cares about her happiness? A relationship requires work, but it won't work if only one person is doing all the work.

Answer 3

if no one has betrayed the other than there is still a good chance of saving the marriage. get some counseling, communicate your pain to her, and how it makes u feel when she talks to u badly, but in a nice way not accusing her of anything. tell her flat out how it makes u feel when she gripes, as maybe she really doesn't know what kind of affect it is having on u. we teach people how to treat us, by accepting that kind of treatment from them in the first place. got to speak up for yourself in a nice way of course and just let her know that u feel as if u have been good to her, and done your best, but feel she hasn't been quite fair with u. good luck

Answer 4

She married you just the way you are, and now she wants you to change..... that's a bad sign. She's not happy unless she gets her way. Everthing has to be her way, that's not what marriage is about. It's about comprimise. If she wants things done her way tell her to do them herself. I'm guessing you bend over backwards to please her....what does she do for you? If your unhappy and there is no way of rekindling the fire, then move on. Why put yourself through that.

Answer 5

It sounds like you need marriage counceling, because it's not fair to you and she may have a bad habit of being negative and habits can be changed. I was once that way and didn't realize it, but counceling helped me and my marriage and we are doing good now and we are happy. best of luck

Answer 6

Most of the time if you have to ask that question, than you already know that it is over, but you are just waiting for someone to tell you that it is okay.

Answer 7

Two words: MARRIAGE COUNSELING

Answer 8

It's over when you thinks it's over.
... and to your other question: yes, it's fair.
woman> justmemimi.

Answer 9

We have no idea what "her way" (versus "your way" I suppose) is.

Can you be less specific? Geez.