Why do I crave attention from my teachers? Am i ridiculously stupid? Should I be worried?

Question

I'm a 14 yr old girl, and i seem to ALWAYS crave attention from my teachers - preferably favorite teachers - which are usually female (aged: 23-35ish - young and stylish and soft/caring). My mum is always there for me and i can talk to her about anything - so its not a lack in a mother figure or anything. I have a few favorite teachers i am scared i might have an obbsession with, wanting to dress and be the same as them and act like them and i always think about them 24/7 - and its these ones i crave the attention from. I promise and swear i am not gay but i love them to bits - and it worries me! please help! But, i always crave attention from them, i'm like a child, and i hate myself for it, but i always daydream about going into their classroom crying about something or imagine myself being sick in their classroom so they come up to me and i want them to reassure me and be sympathetic and sort of like put their arm around me if you know what i mean! please pls help! thank u SO much!

it gets to me incredibly, it makes me want to cry sometimes because i hate myself for being so obbsessed but i just like them and want to talk to them, and i feel shy around them and blush sometimes! But i just long for them to like give me a pat on the head/back and put their arm around me and say aww sweetheart are you ok? whats the matter sweetie? and when i see them be nice like that to others i feel jealous, and i always find myself trying to think up ways to make myself cry, and when they ask whats wrong what sad story i can think up - why am i doing this? am i mad? i am most DEFINITELY not gay! any teachers out there? preferably secondry? or even primary? please help me! i don't understand.. ='(

oh, yes, and i try to walk past her room like at lunch and stuff and hope she sees me and my friends around me as i cry, and because shes really caring and dead nice i know she'd like comfort me, and thats what i want! why????? (well theres more than one teacher i feel this way about but..)

Answer 1

Well as a teacher I have to say that students do get "crushes" on teachers sometimes. It's quite normal. The crushes do not have to be sexual in nature either! I would say from my experience of 14 yr olds though that you are on the border of an obsession. Does you school have a counselor? I would highly encourage you to ask for a private counseling session quickly. The problem is if you start to act on your obsessions too much the teacher could be blamed for it and made to switch schools or even lose her job. Going to the counselor will help you decide what behaviors are appropriate and will actually work towards protecting her from any false accusations later. Have you talked to your mother about your admiration for this teacher? Chances are she had teachers she admired a great deal too and you all can share your stories. As a Christian I would encourage you to distract yourself from these thoughts by concentrating on your friendships and relationship with your mother. You've identified what type of person you would like to be but you need to add a little individuality to it to make yourself unique. You are right inbetween being a child and an adult woman and it's a difficult stage. You're going to look like an adult before you actually are one! You'll be okay if you deal with this right away!

Answer 2

This is normal at your age to idolize and you always want attention, not of insecurity but because you want to be wanted. You are a teen-ager, this is what it is, always confuse. Although you want attention from your teacher, it doesn't hold only to that I think all in your feelings, you wanted attention. It so happen that your in secondary and this is your life at the moment so they are your immediate contact, 24/7. It will pass. Meantime, divert your attention in studying because you can get more attention if your number one in class.

Answer 3

it's OK. but if you want their attention laugh, don't cry.