I come from a Southern Baptist family. They are strict followers of the Bible and Jesus and God. I believe in God. I have accepted Him as my Lord and Savior...but there's one problem: I'm gay. I've been in non-sexual relationships with guys and liked it, but I've been in them with girls and liked it more. I've become really attached to girls, and I'm a huge romantic. I guess you could say I play more of the guy's role in relationships. I'm the one who always holds her. I'm the one who gets along better with guys and understands them better. I'm attracted to girls who are shorter than me, usually. (I hate being the short one.) I know that I'm a lesbian. But how can I and when should I come out to my family? My younger sister already knows, and ALL of my friends do. They're all REALLY acceptive of it. But we have gay relatives and they've been completely abandoned. I think my parents are homophobes. I want to be with girls because I'm happy, but I don't want to lose my family bcuz of it.
2007-01-30 06:28:32 · 5 answers · asked by Charlie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just ask the good Lord to put some words into your mouth and soon you will be telling your folks the honest truth. please remember this: honesty is the best policy.
2007-01-30 07:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by soar_2307 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A hard question to answer.
You know your family much better than anyone here. I suspect you know their likely reactions.
When you are not in a committed relationship, then I can see it might be best to keep quiet. In a committed relationship, there is stronger pressures to come out to your parents.
You risk alienating yourself by telling them; yet you also risk alienating (as in drifting apart from ) them because you can't come out to them and know they won't accept you. A very difficult dilemma.
Only you can really answer this question. I wish you luck in coming up with an answer the works for you. Best of luck if you tell them.
2007-01-30 14:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
OMG your just like me (well in the gay part and that you like girls shorter than you and you play more of the guy role*i'm the same*) but i have come out to my parents and well everyone else my mother and father just said that it was a phase and soon i would only like guys..... umm no i like girls only;.
2007-01-30 14:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by HI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have not come out to my parents just yet. . Like you, my sister and friends know, they are ok with it. . .I have been giving my parents hints. . I asked what would they say if i told them i was gay? Dad said hed be ok mom said she would basically go crazy, that just let me know how to approach them. . . See where they are on the issue. make sure you are comfortable. You will know when you are ready.
2007-01-30 14:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_treat101 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all, why do you need to come out to anyone. I do not like jello i prefer pudding but i have never told my father. He is a die hard jello man by the way. If he ever asks me directly if I like jello I guess I will have to be honest with him and tell him the truth. But it is not really any of his business and your sex desires are not any of your parents business either.
2007-01-30 14:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋