Okay I am due March 1st with my baby "Kayla." I am going to the birthing class on feb 6th and they told me to bring my coach. I do not have a coach. Has anyone had a baby within no one in the room but themselves. I would not even be sad about that but everyone is asking me who my coach is and now it is depressing me. I go into the doctors office by myself what is the difference by giving birth by myself. My mom has not said anything to me but I could ask her to come. Would that be weird? Has anyone had their mom be their coach? She is not the happiest about me having a baby so I don't want to ask but I know she will come. Have you had a birth alone with just you in the room and health professionals on and off? And has anyone had their mom there? Those are the only two questions I want answered. Thanks
2007-01-30 06:23:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No, it would not be weird to have your mom there. It might actually help bring you, her and the baby closer.
2007-01-30 06:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think having your mom as your coach may be a great idea. It could turn in to a bonding experience for the two of you.
My mom wasn't the happiest when she found I was pregnant but I wanted her there during the birth it was a great experience for both of us.
Even though your mom is upset about your pregnancy, asking her to be your coach lets her know that you still need her and you value her as a mom, especially as you become a new mom.
Be careful though, if she turns it into a way to be mean and hurtful, you might consider getting someone else who can be less judgmental about the situation.
Getting a doula can help you and your mom during the birth and you wont have to be alone if you or your mom decide that its not best that she be there
www.bellywomen.net is a great place to look for low cost and free doulas.
2007-01-30 06:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by mlcacek 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The nurses are very supportive so you will have help if you choose to go alone however I would recommend some support not sure what your relationship is with your Mom but as a Mom I can say no one know better what you are going through then someone who gave birth already. It is not weird to ask your mom and it might just turn out to be the best thing for both of you.
2007-01-30 06:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by Sandra D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird to have your mom as a birth coach -- if she can be present & supportive for you during the sessions and delivery, why not. When I went to prenatal classes, one woman's partner had nightshift duties and she would bring her mother instead. I wouldn't recommend having this baby all by yourself because it's a really emotional time and you need someone there to encourage you and help you along --- that's why they call it a coach! Most grandparents, if not immediately in love with the idea of having a grandchild, are quick to come 'round. She will have first bragging rights of seeing her new grandaughter and the experience may bring you both closer together.
2007-01-30 06:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by Shorty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way is that weird. If you are confident in your mother's abilities and that comfortable around her, it would be the best thing! The best birthing coach is someone that you have ultimate trust in. And don't worry about your mom not being thrilled about the baby- neither was mine, and I am 28 years old AND married! LOL But I can tell you that as soon as I got big and as soon as she laid eyes on my baby she has never been happier in her life! Congratulations- and I think asking your mom would mean a lot to her and help you two get closer. oops- didn't realize that he question is different than your long explanation and that you ONLY wnated to know if anyone else used thier mom or if anyone was alone. NO and NO. You may want to edit your question and not blab on and on about the other stuff if you only want a specific question answered. The fact that your mom is not happy and blah blah blah is irrelevant to the ONLY 2 QUESTIONS YOU WANT ANSWERED. Now I'm mad. You're rude.
2007-01-30 06:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by kendalandsam 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm preg with my 1st baby and so I've never experienced birth alone. I will have my husband as birth coach but if I didn't I would definitely have my mother there! I think it's totally cool and not weird at all. You will want someone there who can comfort you and encorage you during such a phenominal time in your life and who knows, you may open the doors for your mother to feel better about your being pregnant by inviting her to take part.
2007-01-30 06:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by child_n_light 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having your mom there is awesome, I wish my mom could have been there for mine she tried with the second but was too late. For one your mom has the experience of child birth and that fact that you two can share it together, I would feel proud to have my mom by my side, and since she is not so happy about it I bet anything after being in there with you it will change her heart.
I have to say that my husband was there (in the room) for my first child but all he did was watch TV (no joke) he wasn't by my side at all, so it was just me and the nurses........until a voluntary dula came in and walked me through it, it was lonely and scary doing it alone and I was very glad for that lady's help......you need someone there with you
2007-01-30 07:05:24 · answer #7 · answered by unhappyinin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anyone better than your mother if the baby's father is not in the picture. Once she see's that innocent child come out she will be in grandma mode and will love her more than anything. Don't do this alone you need family and support, plus it would be a good way to get on better terms with your mother.
2007-01-30 06:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by Maroo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my mom, dad, and bf in room with me LOL! It's alot better with someone in there with you and my parents didn't like me being pregnant either cause I am only 16 and have 2 kids lol so yeah! It'll be perfectly fine...its more akward without mom being there or at lesat a frriend, but im sure she will wanna see her grand baby born.
2007-01-30 06:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia Mahree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your mom are close I don't see anything wrong with it. I would rather have someone there with me than worry about whether or not they are happy about the baby. She will be happy when she sees her grand baby! If you don't have anyone else then mom is a good choice.
2007-01-30 06:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by MyOpinionMatters 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋