My husband is constantly suspicious that I am running around behind his back cheating on him. He calls me on my cell several times a day just to ask where I'm at. He looks at all of my text messages, snoops in my purse, and asks me 100 questions if I go out anywhere without him. I've done NOTHING to make him suspicious. This has been going on the the past several months, and it's starting to get worse. He has asked me several times if there is someone else, even though I keep reassuring him there isn't.
What should I do? Leave him or what??? I am at the end of my rope. I feel like I'm being stalked by my own husband!!
2007-01-30 06:18:16 · 23 answers · asked by Gianna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some people say, the one that points the finger, has three fingers pointing back at them! Maybe he is the one that you need to be questioning. You say it has been going on for the past several months, so ask him why he has been accusing you and ask him why it has started. Be firm, and let him know that you aren't willing to put up with this kind of behavior! He isn't your father, he is your HUSBAND! Let him know that this type of behavior is ruining your relationship, and either he stops it, or you will have no choice but to get out of the situation. A lot of times verbal abuse turns into physical abuse eventually, so make sure you stay firm in your decision to not put up with his absurd behavior.
I know it must be frustrating feeling like you are being stalked by your own husband. He is supposed to be your confidant. He is where you can go to unwind and forget about the worries of everyday life. Don't let him treat you like this! If you knows you are willing to put up with it, then he will continue to treat you this way!
You teach others how to treat you. Make sure you are teaching him how to treat you like the princess you deserve to be treated like! Good Luck!!!!!
2007-01-30 06:52:16 · answer #1 · answered by asya 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Husband constantly suspicious?
2014-12-15 19:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that do that sometimes do it to possibly to deter you from thinking that he in fact is the one running around behind your back. If not, so be it. However, you may want to at least give him an ultimatum - Either stop now, or else you're out ! To do it a bit less harsh, start doing it to him. At first, snoop when he doesn't know it and get as much back up evidence as you can. So when you do it in front of his face, you have something to at least back it up. Best of luck, and I really hope that it's nothing but a caring but overly cautious husband who loves his wife(but way overprotective).
2007-01-30 06:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lexington 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has an insecurity problems. He needs to go to counselling for this. Some people are really possessive of their spouses. This comes from negative thinking on their part. In the past he must of had conflict when it came to trust. Maybe this stems from his childhood. It might not have anything really to do with you at all. The brain works in mysterious ways sometimes.Get him some medical help on this problem and you will be much more content as well as him. If you truly love him, you will see that he gets the help he requires. Good Luck Cocoa
2007-01-30 06:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I don't understand is why you keep playing this game. Stop answering your cell more than once a day, get a small, fashionable lock for your purse, stop turning your phone over to him to check your text messages (put it in your locked purse!), and don't answer any more of the 100 questions than you feel like. When he asks if there is someone else, say, "Not yet, but if you continue to act this way, I will want for there to be, so you had better figure out how to quit it."
2007-01-30 06:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he always like this? What happened a few months ago to make him change? Are you sure you have no responsibility in this at all? people rarely become as obsessed about infidelity unless there was a precurser. Think about it a little. If there absolutely is no valid reason for his behavior, have a talk and get the answers you need from him. i am sure he has an explanation. Question? Why are you so ready to throw in the towel because of this? Work it out.
2007-01-30 06:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with what some of the others said. My ex became this way out of no where after he had cheated and before I had found out. I believe that people who know they cannot be trusted do not trust others. You need counseling, or a private detective. If he's this confrontational be careful about snooping around on your own or confronting him. Good luck, I hope that I'm wrong and you can work it out.
2007-01-30 06:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by babyred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love your husband but if you think just sitting around the house and remaining a prisoner will make him quit accusing you of cheating but it wont. You are isolating and giving in to underhanded tactics swearing on the bible and your child's life that you never cheated on him and nothing is working. The problem is not yours it is his he has made you think that by his actions calling you names and accusing you of being a cheater that you need to fix his insecurity but that is his problem. Every time you give into his insecurity you make it worse, you live with his family members for god sake. Either he has or is cheating or because of his lack of providing for his family for so long he has come to feel worthless and as a result he cant understand why your staying with him either way your marriage is unhealthy now and you need marriage counseling or you need to leave
2016-03-29 10:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is guilty of something, I have seen where if a man does something behind his significant others back they grow very suspicious of them out of guilt. One thing is for sure you need to sit him down and let him know how you feel and what you will and won't tolerate, otherwise he may get violent.
2007-01-30 06:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's obviously extremely insecure and needs proffesional help with it. this is not a marriage and i have some experience with this so i can say it's time to go. you can't have a normal relationship with him behaving this way. you don't have to divorce him but you do need to sepperate until he can get help for this. the longer it goes on the more angry you will get and the relationship will deteriate anyway. so tell him you will come back when you know he is actually getting help. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-30 06:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋