I am finally with a nice guy and am so scared I am falling out of love with him. How can we make ourselves like the good guys, or get used to the normal/healthy relationships?
2007-01-30 06:15:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to appreciate what makes him a good guy...think of the things he says and does... instead we are thinking about looks and the way other girls are attracted to men this somehow makes them more enviable...we are our own worst enemies as far as who we are attracted to...but as you get older you start to come to the understanding that the good guys are the ones we will want to be with in the end...trouble is...they will be all gone by the time we realize that. When people are considering a mate for life choose the one that wants to be a family man that will provide a good income and steady values , the one that will appreciate and love you for what you are...the hawt guy that's into himself will dump you as soon as you gain 10 pounds or get a wrinkle...the good guy will always see you the way you are right now.
2007-01-30 06:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by .*^+Holly+^*. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not a matter of liking good guys, it is changing your needs to change some one else. When you hooked up with the bad guys, you had a lot of work trying to change him in to a man for you. This never did work did it? So now you have a real nice guy on your hands that doesn't require any thing from you except for you to respect and love him, so that is the areas that you have to work on-finding different ways to show respect and love. And I am not talking about sex alone. yes that is part of a healthy relationship, but putting a house i order so that it is comfortable for the both of you, because you see you have to work on the premise that he is more than able to think, decide, plan, and do for himself.but because he is a nice guy you are always included in those thoughts. so when you take any action remember you are thinking or acting for two consenting adults not one adult and a problem child bad boy
2007-01-30 06:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't make yourself do anything because the ones who pay in the end are the children born into the marriage or relationship. My first husband was one of the good guys, everyone in my family liked him, I liked him too but we were all wrong for each other. We were constantly upset with one another, him apologizing for being too nice, me for daring him to let loose and live a little. Don't get me wrong, he is a great person but just not my type and no amount of changing was going to alter this fact, not even after having 2 daughters together. We called it quits (or I did, against my families wishes) and married a man more to my ideas.
2007-01-30 06:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 'drama' of a dysfunctional relationship can become addictive. If you are finding your nice guy boring are there ways to get some excitement with him that don't involve emotional drama? Maybe counselling would help you break old patterns of behaviour.
2007-01-30 06:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know I do not have this problem I always tend to like the good guys who like the bad girls lol so I'm oppisite. But if you got a good guy then keep ahold of him because they are hard to find now a days and you'll regret it later on.
2007-01-30 06:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Amy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take it one day at a time...bad guys will get you know where ! and they are always yours mine and everone elses type...focus on a mate that has the qualities you want.
like calling you back and being nice....it's not going to be fun and sexy when the babies are out of diapers and your beloved is out at the pub!
2007-01-30 06:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there must be a reason why you fell in love with him at the first time. Try to bring back that moment...
2007-01-30 06:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by dude from bosnia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something crazy romantic and see if he is willin to do something crazy like sky divin or somethin that'll put a rush into u and strengthen the relationship
2007-01-30 06:21:54 · answer #8 · answered by ashl2e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it your like most girls, you only want a guy who cheats on you or hits you or hell just treats you like crap. all guys know that, the more they treat their girl like a princess all they do in the end is cheat on them or just leave. why even bother and give a girl respect
2007-01-30 06:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by bone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u know let me know, i always fall for the bad boys..
2007-01-30 06:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by shorty21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋