My ex boyfriend and also the father to my baby just told me that he wants me back but during our relationship he did me so many things that i dont think i will ever forgive him for that,i was truelly in love with him and it seemed he was not serious. The bad things that he has done are,he promised to marry me and he used my money to buy the wedding gown and a ring telling me that he will refund me and i thought i was helping him since i loved him and he never married me and has never refunded me. The second thing is that he cheated on me whilst i was pregnant and after having the baby,he didn't come to check on me,he saw his son when he was six months old. I took loan from my bank before i fell pregnant and he asked me to borrow him some and he has never payed me back and i he took clothes on my accounts and never helped me with payments, i lost interest on him and now he wants me back,what should i do,i tried to explain to him that i dont want him but he keeps on saying that everyday.
2007-01-30 06:15:07 · 19 answers · asked by peedee 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hon, you've been through enough already. Build yourself up and tell him to hit the road jack. You have a lovely child and you have a fresh start, be thankful that you're not already married to him and look at this as a big learning curve. He is terrible with money and if you keep on giving him money he'll just keep taking and taking and you'll have nothign for yourself and your baby.
You're ready to start anew and can build youself and your child a great future together, without this lying, cheating jerk.
Get support from your family and friends or speak to local people and socialise lots with other mothers/fathers and their children.
Eventually you'll meet a guy who will treat you properly and you'll thank your lucky stars you left that guy in the gutter! You should allow him to see his child however, if he pays child support and is willing to be a 'father' to them.
Look in the mirror each morning, give yourself a big smile tell yourself that you can do it and be strong, use the support of those who will give it to you, You can do it! Go girl!
2007-01-30 06:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by gigi s 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
been there done that. Kick the loser to the curb. My baby daddy is the same exact thing. Why would you want somebody back that did all those hurtful things to you?! Do you honestly think that you will be able to trust him and love him like in the 'good old times'?! I'm telling you, even if you do take him back, it's not gonna make life any easier and even if things go good for a couple of months, you're gonna start resenting him the more you are with him for what he has done to you in the past and that's just gonna lead to more drama. Tell him that you do love him and always will but u are no longer in love with him and have no interest in any further commitment with him. I'm telling you, it's the best for you and your baby. Think of all the bad things he's done to you and then answer honestly, do you really want him back?!
2007-01-30 06:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY AWAY FROM THE MAN men like that will keep coming back to use you, i think you should file child support and help those payments pay the bills he created in your name. When men find a woman they can walk on and take things from easily they keep coming back when they fall on hard times and have no one else to use at the moment. Once a cheater always a cheater and while you may have been ready to make a commitment in marriage he will not be anytime soon and if he says yes then he lies to get more money or possesions so SAVE YOURSELF A HEADACHE keep ties to a minimum and then those are being nice since he is your childs father DONT OPEN THAT CAN OF WORMS that is all i can say with out repeating myself so love yourself and your kid but not him best of luck to you in this
2007-01-30 06:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by sexy b 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you still have feelings for him. Take stock of his current situation and see what does he have to show for himself. I'm not saying that he should have a BMW and a house, but see if he is serious in wanting to get back with you. He is the man, therefore he has to be the provider for you and your baby. Is he responsible? Does he hold a steady job? Can he be a good father to your baby?
Try to be subjective, if the answers to the above questions are no, then be firm and tell him a straight "No" and don't look back.
2007-01-30 06:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by yahoo_girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-01 21:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of used protection. Also, you sound very young so if I were you I wouldn't, 1) take him back, or 2) marry him, and 3) move on and chock this one up as a lesson learned. You and your baby will be better off. He is a bum, if he has to buy you a ring and dress with your money. What were you thinking anyway?
2007-01-30 06:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get some help from your friends and family to back you up. Just whatever you do, keep this loser away from your son, unless you can supervise the visitation. Just ignore him completely if nothing else works. I am sure he can find some other sucka!! Good job getting rid of the bum, though.
2007-01-30 06:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by kendalandsam 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be silly. Run as far away from that loser as you possibly can. He is a loser and a user. You can do so much better than him. If you go back with him, you are asking to be treated badly - and also setting a bad example for your child.
If you have a daughter - you are showing her that it is acceptable for men to treat her this way.
If you have a son - you are showing him that this is the way you are supposed to treat women.
2007-01-30 06:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If hes only seen you son when he was 6months old get rid of him theres no point of you talking to him everyday you need to move on dont talk to this loser I cant say anything more than it will hurt your son in the long run and for the money goes forget it youll never see it trust me move on
2007-01-30 06:20:05 · answer #9 · answered by shana 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm amazed you even have to ask the question. Do not take the jerk back. You can't afford it emotionally...as well as finanancially. You need to focus your attention on your baby and if that loser ever gets back in your graces, he'll be hitting you up for money again...money which you need for the baby.
2007-01-30 06:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by kathy_is_a_nurse 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋