Any beautiful insecure married women want to take a stab at this question?

Question

My wife is very beautiful but seems to be very insecure with herself sometimes. I did not know this until a long time into our relationship. My problem is this, most beautiful women have guys falling all over them whether they are married or not. I’m worried because she is insecure and very attractive and to me that ups the cheat factor. Do you think this holds true? Do most beautiful insecure women cheat even though their husbands could be the perfect guy? If you’re very attractive, married, and somewhat insecure in relationships, please tell me if you’ve always been tempted to cheat or you got over it with time.

Answer 1

I think ALL WOMEN no matter how beautiful they are get insecure at times. I think its completely natural. I think as long as you treat her right, and give her the time she deserves... She wont cheat.

Answer 2

My husband tells me all the time I am beautiful. I have men falling all over me all the time, especially older married men. I am a mother of two teenager's with the same body I had in high school, and long pretty hair and no make-up. I dont try at this, this is just the way I am. I must say I am flattered by the attention, but I am insecure in thinking my husband will have an affair on ME. But to answer your question, I would NEVER cheat on my husband, regardless of how men treat me. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I wouldnt even look at another man, although it is always very obvious that they are looking at me. Your true love would never do that to you. True love is just that, you only find it once in a lifetime. I am so grateful for mine! If I was UNHAPPY, and he was not my true love, I probably wouldnt even be in the relationship, or I might be tempted to cheat. Dont question it, unless she is truly unhappy and you know it!

Answer 3

I think you are being paranoid. I am married attractive and have 3 kids and a wonderful husband. I never think about cheating on him just because I am not happy with myself. If you are a great guy why is she so insecure. Is it the relationship or just her. Look at that. I think you show signs of insecurity just by thinking because your wife is pretty will cheat on you. I am very flattered by guys all the time. It does not mean I am going to jump into bed with them just to feel better, I would not jeopardize my marriage and I don't think your wife would either. Just keep loving her be understanding and this will pass.

Answer 4

I would describe myself as sensual, elegant with soft prettiness, maybe hot...I don't know. But after being married for 15 years I have never been insecure in my life, UNTIL, at a social gathering I noticed something about my husband that I hadn't seen in years. I think it was his happiness while talking to another woman, and I have become insecure for several weeks now, I am waiting for this to go away, and so far it has not. However, this will not drive me cheat on my husband and I would never do anything for revenge. I want to make love to somebody I am deeply in love with, that is the only reason that I will sleep with another man.

Answer 5

Any woman that is insecure most likely will not cheat. The feeling of insecurity is a low self esteem look at yourself. She probably is shy too. Why do you worry about her cheating? You should be more concerned of making her feel that she is beautiful, not only in looks but in everything about her. If you let her stay the way she is then you are the insecure one. Love her, help her.

Answer 6

Get out of this relationship before he seriously hurts you... My girlfriend used to have exactly same problem, she got married at 18, had a daugter and everything was going well. Then her husband lost his job and couldn't find a new one. He became frustrated a started physically abuse her. Once he broke her arm, she took a baby and went to her mother. He begged her to come back, brought her flowers and stuff, so she did and he was nice to her for a while, but after some time he would abuse her again. Then she got pregnant again {with his baby, of course, he wouldn't even let her go shopping without him so she couln't meet somebody} and he got upset, because he didn't want another child. He started arguing and he ended up beating her, and didn't stop untill she was heavily bleading. She lost her child and she probably won't be able to have another one. It is now one year later, she has more scars then you can imagine and guess what - she is still with him. I only see her when she is taking out the trash, because she is not allowed to go out or see anybody. But she says that those times when he is nice to her are worth of staying with him. I guess some people just don't get it untill they get killed. Oh and by the way he recently started beating their little daughter, you don't want that to happen to you, right? So do something about it now, you are still so young, you are going to meet someone much better who will be nice to you. You just have to be brave and leave him. You have to do it for you and your baby.

Answer 7

um...well I'v been TOLD that I was very attractive...hmmmm, I guess I'm not bad, but I am very insecure anyways, and this makes me VERY dependant on my husband and I barely look at other men. There are men who are interested in me every few months, at work or at a party, there will be a man who asks me out, but I just say "oh, I'm married, see my ring?" politely of course and let it go. It's not big deal. I don't think it will make a person cheat any more than normal.

Answer 8

I am told all the time that I am attractive, but I am insecure. It does not make me want to cheat on my husband. He treats me well and that is what I look at. Whether I feel like garbage one day or not does not matter in the big picture. If he continues to treat me well, my insecurity will not cause me to want to cheat.

Answer 9

Being insecure does not mean she will cheat.
Not having morals is what you should be concerned about. I was insecure but I never cheated. I have been told I am beautiful. I am happily married to a good man, my first husband was a cheater.

Answer 10

You are generalizing. All women are insecure, we women have to be beautiful at all times, well dressed, be thin, have great hair and make up, keep up with fashion statements, give great parties, have beautiful childtren, maintain perfect households, make husband happy in life and in bed, be great cooks, great financial advisors.. etc... and yes! if we have bad hair days and we do gain weight after the holidays, and we get gray hairs and nails do break and outfits no longer fit etc. etc. etc. there is plenty of reasons to be insecure, she is just a normal woman.\

As long as you give her attention and reassure her of her beuty and your feelings for her, you don;t need to worry about anything, Sometimes women try to fish for compliments when you haven;t say something in a while.

Good luck

Answer 11

No I would NEVER cheat.
We have been through all that dumb stuff by him cheating and treating me like crap and leaving me for a year, now during that year I did tell him I did cheat, but in all reality I did not. This I think he now suspects.

Even though things in my situation have been REAL rocky... It's been 10 years and we have 3 kids... I would NOT even think of cheating. For what? Some other man's problems? No thank you, I'll take a shower ;) anyday!