Does anyone have any suggestions for me about different job? I work 8-5:00, M-Friday.?

Question

I pick-up my 2 girls (11monthes and 5 yrs. old), from Pre-school and by the time I get home it's sometimes 6-6:30 pm. At this point there has been no bathes, nor a good supper and I don't get to spend quality time with my girls. My husband works 1:30 pm til' 10:00 pm, so I'm home alone to get it all done and get them tucked in. I still house work, and NO time for just me....Is there any jobs out there that I could do, to give my girls more that they deserve from me, including my husband? I'm so tired and stressed all the time....Help, Please?!

Answer 1

Try finding something part time in the city where you live. You sound as if you are burned out and really need to switch careers asap.

Answer 2

Some good suggestions on here for you...Please don't take this as a criticism, but have you considered cutting back on your work hours, working only mornings, or maybe just staying home for a few years till your daughters are both in school full-time? I know that sounds extreme, and you may not be able to afford it. But you do sound tired and stressed, and though I know it's a terrible cliche, "they grow up so fast."

I have stayed home with my two boys their entire lives and my husband has always worked full-time. We made that decision when I first got pregnant and have never regretted it. It was not easy but it seemed like the best decision for us. I was able to raise them myself, and take them out, spend time with them, and not have to worry how to fit it in. We had to sacrifice many things financially and there have certainly been times when I wanted to escape! But the boys are 13 and 18 now, and I feel it was worth it and still is, though I am now job-hunting.

You don't say what your job is, but what about if you only worked mornings? That way your husband could get the girls ready to go in the am's and you could take them to daycare, and then go to work. Some days after work, you could pick them up right away and have some fun time with them before supper and bed, or some days you could leave them all day and get some things down at home or have some "mom" time. You may have to juggle your budget a bit, but it might be worth it. You would have time with your girls, time to yourself, time to get your housework done, and your husband would also have time with the girls in the am's while you get ready for work. If you think about your daily expenses, there might be a few extras you could cut out (my weakness is too many trips to Starbuck's!) and then you'd be able to get a sitter once in a while and go out with your husband.

Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 3

don't know about the job but could you hire someone to drive the girls home from school? Or trade days with another mom who lives close by so you have a few more minutes free some daysYou could get in some extra time there for cooking, a few minutes of quiet time in the house, etc. You could also set aside one weekend night a week for a family supper and game night to be able to relax with your kids. Depending on what your job is you might be able to talk your boss into letting you work from home some afternoons... a lot of companies make allowances like that for good employees whom they trust and want to help.

Answer 4

I don't mean to rub salt in the wound, but that's life. I work those same hours and so does my wife.

What really works is scheduling time for yourself and your kids. It's when you have very little time that scheduling becomes most important. Try to have your 5-year-old do most of the bedtime routine on her own while you take care fo the baby. That may free up some time.

If the real problem is liking your job than just start looking elsewhere. Many retail jobs offer "mother's hours" so you can work 7am-3pm or something similar.

Answer 5

i work 8-5 too and i make it work. what i do, is i make sure i stay organized.

i am OUT by 5 on the nose. my employer understands that and he knows it better be important for me to have to stay later.

i go to the day care and pick up my son and then i go home. then, i make dinner while he plays and i pay attention to him and the dog while i wait for something to boil or wait for something to bake. we eat, then every other night he gets a bath and then bedtime routine....etc...

there are no elaborate dinners and there are no stops at the store. that's why i say you need to get organized!

make a list of all the good, quick meals you can prepare. examples:
tacos
stuffed baked potatoes
steaks
garlic lemon chicken
sausage subs
deep dish pizza
pecan chicken
meatloaf
lasagna
spaghetti

you get the idea....

make a list, then EVERY weekend sit down and look at your "menu" and create a menu for each day of the week. then, create your shopping list from your weekly menu.
this will help with "what to have for dinner?", buying things you don't really need and stopping at the store b/c you forgot the lemon for the whatever.
tip: if you want to do a lasagna, then make that monday's dinner and assemble it sunday night and put it in the fridge so you can just pop it in the oven monday night. THEN you have tons of extra time with the girls and to do housework.

this way every meal can be assembled fairly quickly and clean up, if kept up on every night, will happen after kids are in bed.

i hustle when i get home. i don't dilly dally around either. it's get things done to spend time with the baby and then i clean up dishes and usually do ONE chore before i sit down for about an hour or hour 1/2 to myself.

i am usually in bed by about 10-11pm.

i hope this helps and remember that dad needs to be doing some chores during the week too, like throw some laundry in during the day, so you can fold it at night. it is a team effort.

also, major cleaning can be done on the weekend. whoever goes shopping can take the girls and the other needs to stay home and clean house. that way when grocery shopping is done, then the house is clean and family time begins!!!!

take care!

Answer 6

Is there any way you can chop back your expenses so you can stay home with the girls? I mean brutally chop - no more cable, dump the second car, ditch the cell phone, cook from scratch, etc.

Perhaps you would feel less stressed if you had a more workable system for time management. You might try the Fly Lady web site - there's all sorts of help and suggestions there.

This is really tough, I know. My husband and I both worked for many of the years our son was at home. Thank God for weekends! And for your husband - think of all the women who are having to do it all without a loving hubby to share the burden.

Answer 7

You may want to look for a job online that you can do from home. Get your resume together then you can check out the jobs listed on the website that has only telecommute jobs. They have posted 3 new ones today.

These are real jobs, you will need a resume and have to interview for them. Some of them also want someone with telecommute experience as well.

http://2ndincomejobs.com

Answer 8

If you have sales experience I could give you a job that would allow you to work from home. For information about this job you would need to send an e-mail to argsalescandidate @topproducersonly.com An auto responder will then send you the details about the position.

If our position does not suit you then you could try posting your resume on MONSTER under the work from home category. Many of the responses you will receive will need to be scrutinized for authenticity but there are many good work from home jobs available now days.

Hope that helps! Good luck.

Answer 9

My husband goes to school full time and works part time I stay home with our daughter money is tight but I believe my place is at home We do not get to have all the nicest things but I am able to be with my daughter and home for my husband when he is here Maybe you could figure out a way to work less so you are not as stressed and have more time for your family.

Answer 10

Any career is gonna be more taxing when you add on Mommy-duty.
Here are some of my "stress free" routines....
- cook it ahead of time! When you are cooking double things up and freeze it - then you have a dinner at a snap. Then there is the beloved crockpot -- dinner warm and ready when you walk in the door.
- Divide and conquer! If you have kids and dinner in your off time then hubby gets dusting and vacuuming in his.
- Remember.......no one dies if the vacuum doesn't get run. Enjoy that 1-2 hours with your kids in evening.