my husband does not want me to talk to one of my guys bestfriend because he ask me out in the pass but i said no and that was that well i told him i would not talk to him anymore but yesterday he saw that i emailed him and I said MY FRIEND was sexy but i was just playing because thats how we used to get along and my hubby got mad AND HE DOES NOT WANT TO SPEAK TO ME. AM I WRONG WHAT SHOULD I DO HELP PLEASE????
2007-01-30 05:39:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if this makes your husband jealous maybe you should tone it down - make him think he's in control- how would you feel if he was doing this to you??
2007-01-30 05:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Who are you spending the rest of your life with? There is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex, but if it bothers your husband than you should not continue to have any kind of relationship with this man. Now in the future if your husband seems to be picking your friends, then perhaps he has a control issue. But, you should say good bye to your friend this time around. A married woman has no reason to be friends with a man you wants her. You broke the trust issue with your husband, now you need to build it back up. And, why would you say this man is sexy, after you know your husbands feelings? Make a nice dinner for him and admit how wrong you were for doing this. Tell him again that the sexy thing was just a joke, perhaps he will buy it. Good luck.
2007-01-30 05:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you acted that way with your guy friend in the past, doesn't mean it's appropriate now. You're married. Teasing like that is flirting, whether you admit it or not. And that's exactly how your husband sees it. I don't blame him for being upset, you said you wouldn't speak to your friend, then turned around e-mailed him. What were you thinking? You blatantly lied to your husband. If I were you, I would apologize to your husband, tell him you will tell your guy friend that you can't talk anymore or can't carry on the way you used to. You need to respect your husband first, and worry about your friends second. You would probably be equally jealous if your husband call a former friend of his "sexy". Just try to respect each other.
2007-01-30 05:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong. You are married and your husband deserves RESPECT.
How would you feel if your husband has a sexy best friend that emails behind your back and flirts with her and email her how sexy and beutiful she is.
Get a grip on yourself and grow up.
Ah, you question is what to do, well, you need to apologize and tell your husband that you will stop emailing the guy and you will stop contact with him. This dude made a pass at you, and you keep on entretaining this disrespect to your spouse just because it inflates your ego? "Friends" don't flirt and talk behind their spouses back and call each other "sexy".
You have to chose between your friend and your husband. Choose wisely.
Good luck
2007-01-30 06:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you told your husband you would not talk to the guy, and you did, yes, you're wrong. You lied. Emailing is STILL "talking". Lies break down trust. Not only that, though. Would you want to find out that your husband was calling a female friend "sexy"? (whether it was all in games or not?)
You screwed up. Change your ways, repent, and hopefully your husband can forgive you.
2007-01-30 05:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are rong. You said you wouldnt talk to this guy..and you did. Your husband is trying to protect the relationship and you are letting an intruder in. This guy will make a pass at you in no time and you are entertaining the notion. So pick what is more important your husband or flirting with his friend who likes you.
2007-01-30 06:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep sorry your wrong, if you and ur husband have discussed this "friend" and he doesnt feel comfortable with u having him as a friend.. and u agreed to not have any more contact with this "friend".. then there shouldnt of been an email.. that he could of read to start with..
Sorry but im doubting seriously that if u were put in his shoes that u'd appreciate ur husband calling some girl that u had problems with "sexy"
Sorry but ur definately in the wrong... on this one, ur playing with fire and u may just get burned..
2007-01-30 05:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you two are only friends, and nothing at all more, I don't see anything wrong with you talking to him. If you have the slightest romantic feelings for this man then you should stop talking to him immediately. I have the same problem with my wife. I am basically not allowed to have friend of any gender, especially female friends. However, I completely disagree with that b/c i feel that everyone needs friends, whether they are of the opposite sex or not. You need to talk to your husband and explain to him that there is nothing more there but a friendship. Try to make him understand that you only love him and only want to be with him, but you do need friends.
2007-01-30 05:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by simple_man 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honesty is the best policy. First, you need to be honest with your husband. If your friend e-mails you, tell your husband when it happens, before you reply back.
Second, you need to be honest with yourself. Are you really just friends with this guy? Or are you flirting with him because you like that kind of attention...perhaps the kind you don't get with your husband anymore?
Finally, honestly discuss insecurity and control issues with your husband. If this guy really is "just a friend," then your husband needs to accept that and trust you. Trust is as important as honesty in any marriage.
2007-01-30 05:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by Sophie832 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Option 1) Don't talk to your friend
Option 2) Have your husband meet the guy
Option 3) Tell your husband to grow up and stop being so jealous
Option 4) options 2 AND 3
2007-01-30 05:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Be honest, you were flirting. It is only natural. But, you have got to be careful with that stuff. Put yourself in his shoes. What if he told some ohter woman she was sexy. If you are going to walk on the wild side when married be smart or don't do it.
2007-01-30 05:45:58 · answer #11 · answered by browneyedgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋